I had my first day of classes today at the community college. Well, more orientation and tours and stuff, but still first day, technically.
During lunchtime, though, I ran into an old friend that I've known since my first year of university back when I was 18 (cripes, almost 20 years ago). Years ago, she set me up with a friend of hers. This girl became one of my longest lasting relationships. We broke up after 3 years together, two of which were living together. At the time, I still had no clue what I wanted to do with my life, who I was, etc. And at the time, she kept talking about a ring on her finger and a baby in her belly. You can probably see why we broke up.
Anyway, we've mended fences since a rather bad break up and become friends - at least on Facebook. She's had a really rough year, with her father dying and having to take care of her incredibly mentally unwell mother. Long story.
But...my old friend also told me that my ex (who we'll call Anne for easier reference) was also either breaking up with or had already broken up with her boyfriend she'd been with recently. Apparently he was an okay guy, but they just didn't mesh well together.
And I guess it got me thinking. Would it be possible that Anne and I could get back together? Would she even be interested?
I've been thinking about this pretty much since lunchtime and realized this isn't just a matter of wanting to get back with an ex-girlfriend. Anne and I were really great together. She had a similar humour as me (including a perchance for puns) and has not only gotten into yoga and meditation, but also just got her certificate to teach. I'm a very different person from the one she was with. I'm a healthier eater and more physically active, not as obsessed with comics or especially wrestling, I know myself a lot better, and my depression is nowhere near as bad as it used to be. I've come a long way since then. Part of me has, at times, thought, "You know, you're much happier about yourself and have more in common with Anne now than before." Which is funny, because we already had a number of things in common.
But I don't know. I barely even talk to her anymore. I messaged our mutual friend, asking her what she thinks, but haven't heard back yet. I think it's just one of those things I'll have to accept and move on.
During lunchtime, though, I ran into an old friend that I've known since my first year of university back when I was 18 (cripes, almost 20 years ago). Years ago, she set me up with a friend of hers. This girl became one of my longest lasting relationships. We broke up after 3 years together, two of which were living together. At the time, I still had no clue what I wanted to do with my life, who I was, etc. And at the time, she kept talking about a ring on her finger and a baby in her belly. You can probably see why we broke up.
Anyway, we've mended fences since a rather bad break up and become friends - at least on Facebook. She's had a really rough year, with her father dying and having to take care of her incredibly mentally unwell mother. Long story.
But...my old friend also told me that my ex (who we'll call Anne for easier reference) was also either breaking up with or had already broken up with her boyfriend she'd been with recently. Apparently he was an okay guy, but they just didn't mesh well together.
And I guess it got me thinking. Would it be possible that Anne and I could get back together? Would she even be interested?
I've been thinking about this pretty much since lunchtime and realized this isn't just a matter of wanting to get back with an ex-girlfriend. Anne and I were really great together. She had a similar humour as me (including a perchance for puns) and has not only gotten into yoga and meditation, but also just got her certificate to teach. I'm a very different person from the one she was with. I'm a healthier eater and more physically active, not as obsessed with comics or especially wrestling, I know myself a lot better, and my depression is nowhere near as bad as it used to be. I've come a long way since then. Part of me has, at times, thought, "You know, you're much happier about yourself and have more in common with Anne now than before." Which is funny, because we already had a number of things in common.
But I don't know. I barely even talk to her anymore. I messaged our mutual friend, asking her what she thinks, but haven't heard back yet. I think it's just one of those things I'll have to accept and move on.
But yeah, that's pretty good advice.[DOUBLEPOST=1378499222,1378499180][/DOUBLEPOST]
