Rant VIII: The Reckoning

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Tell gym management, if you can. I seem to recall GoodLife having a 'no body shaming' policy.

Also, that guy is a piece of shit.
My plan is to confront him next time I see him. Not to tell and swear, but to very clearly tell him why his joke hurt.

If he doubles down, as I suspect he will, THEN I'll inform management.

GoodLife actually responded to me on Twitter. The usual expected response, but still.

 
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Am I the only one turned off by a corporation's spokesperson using THX and PLZ? It makes the whole apology sound a bit indifferent.
 

Dave

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It's probably someone young doing it that's used to typing in such a manner. So you are probably the only one. ;)
 
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It's probably someone young doing it that's used to typing in such a manner. So you are probably the only one. ;)
In my experience, it's only old (45+) people that dont type complete words. Though in this case, typing the full words would go over the character limit for a tweet.
 
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That was totally unacceptable. I’m sorry hat happened. WTF is wrong with people?

I’m also bothered by the half typed words. I’m 44 though lol, is that close enough to old?
 
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I can't stand it. The only person I actually see use it outside of Twitter though (where I kind of accept it) is my mom texting me, so maybe that's why. :p
 
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Dude....you're not fat. Maybe you USED to be, but your last pictures are amazing. Fuck that old guy and don't listen to him. He's just an idiot.
I’ve seen your pictures, too, @Nick. You’ve boiled off so many frogs’ worth over that time, you got nothing to be ashamed of.
I think he was just negging you. Wait, not negging, but whatever the opposite is when an overt insult is actually supposed to be taken as an eyewink compliment. However, I can tell you that I’ve learned (from plenty of personal experience!) that unless you know how the person is gonna take it, you probably shouldn’t risk it.

—Patrick
 

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I’ve seen your pictures, too, @Nick. You’ve boiled off so many frogs’ worth over that time, you got nothing to be ashamed of.
I think he was just negging you. Wait, not negging, but whatever the opposite is when an overt insult is actually supposed to be taken as an eyewink compliment. However, I can tell you that I’ve learned (from plenty of personal experience!) that unless you know how the person is gonna take it, you probably shouldn’t risk it.

—Patrick
I've done the same thing. Back in high school at a swing choir competition (don't judge me) the group before us did really well. When they came out and we crossed backstage I thought I'd compliment them and turn it into a kind of a little joke. I don't remember the exact wording, but they did NOT think I was joking and took it as me saying they sucked. I still think about that and how they must have thought I was a huge dick even though I was trying to be nice in a really awkward way. (It didn't help that we won the competition and they didn't even place. D'oh!)
 
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I've done the same thing. Back in high school at a swing choir competition (don't judge me) the group before us did really well. When they came out and we crossed backstage I thought I'd compliment them and turn it into a kind of a little joke. I don't remember the exact wording, but they did NOT think I was joking and took it as me saying they sucked. I still think about that and how they must have thought I was a huge dick even though I was trying to be nice in a really awkward way. (It didn't help that we won the competition and they didn't even place. D'oh!)
If I was going to judge you for anything here, it would be your lack of ability to judge a swing choir's performance.


Whatever a swing choir is.
 

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If I was going to judge you for anything here, it would be your lack of ability to judge a swing choir's performance.


Whatever a swing choir is.
It's otherwise known as a show choir. The following is a good representation.

And they WERE good, but we were that much better.

 
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Nothing like being fat shamed in the gym locker room to really start your day.

I was checking the scale after my shower - usual routine for me - when this old guy says "Whoa! Did you break it?! Are you fiddling with the numbers?!"

I have been fat most of my life. I've been bullied for being fat most of my life. I am incredibly self conscious about my weight. My self esteem is perpetually low, even on good days.

Comments like this are incredibly hurtful. Know your audience before making a joke like that.

This is the first time I've been fat shamed in a GoodLife gym and I sure as hell hope it's the last. I didn't say anything to this guy. Too angry and shocked and said nothing and definitely didn't laugh.

If I see him again, I'll likely confront him and let him know how much his "joke" hurt. I get anything he'll laugh it off and tell me to grow thicker skin or something.

But I suddenly feel less welcome at GoodLife.
Someone fat shamed you? YOU?!?!? Dude, I've seen pro athletes fatter than you. Seriously, google Roy Nelson.

You look awesome dude. Fuck anyone who says different.
 
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As you might know, I'm estranged from my mother's side of the family. There was no abuse but we're polar opposites and I got tired of dealing with the drama (which is the main reason I moved to Canada).

I found out about 20 minutes ago that my grandfather is dying. But could my mother, my brothers, my aunts or uncles or cousins be bothered to let me know? Even just a text message? "Hey, I know we don't get along but I wanted you to know that Papa is dying, in case you want to come down and say goodbye."

Fuck them! I know I'm not the model daughter/granddaughter/sister/whatever but really? This is appropriate? For fuck's sake!
 

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As you might know, I'm estranged from my mother's side of the family. There was no abuse but we're polar opposites and I got tired of dealing with the drama (which is the main reason I moved to Canada).

I found out about 20 minutes ago that my grandfather is dying. But could my mother, my brothers, my aunts or uncles or cousins be bothered to let me know? Even just a text message? "Hey, I know we don't get along but I wanted you to know that Papa is dying, in case you want to come down and say goodbye."

Fuck them! I know I'm not the model daughter/granddaughter/sister/whatever but really? This is appropriate? For fuck's sake!
That really sucks, and it shows a lot of immaturity. I'm very sorry. I don't know if you were close to your grandfather, but regardless, you have a right to know. All the best through this tough time.
 
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As you might know, I'm estranged from my mother's side of the family. There was no abuse but we're polar opposites and I got tired of dealing with the drama (which is the main reason I moved to Canada).

I found out about 20 minutes ago that my grandfather is dying. But could my mother, my brothers, my aunts or uncles or cousins be bothered to let me know? Even just a text message? "Hey, I know we don't get along but I wanted you to know that Papa is dying, in case you want to come down and say goodbye."

Fuck them! I know I'm not the model daughter/granddaughter/sister/whatever but really? This is appropriate? For fuck's sake!
My grandfather passed away at 5:30 am today. I found out from the same person who let me know he was dying. Not one word from the family.
 
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Good god. My cousin's son died in car accident yesterday. He was 19. She lost her sister in September and now her son. I don't even know what to think.
 
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There are always a lot of fatal traffic accidents around New Year's. Was it a drunk driver who caused it?
I don't know. I sure hope not. The details are sketchy. I don't want to press anyone right now for details. I just found out that his dad was following in a separate vehicle and saw it happen.
 

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My mom is out of money. Which means that next Wednesday my sister and I will be moving her to a new facility. The facility she's in now is specifically built for patients with memory issues. The exits are around darkened corners so the residents don't see the outside (other than the circular courtyard) and the place itself is build as one big circle so the residents can walk and walk and never really leave. Closed doors are painted to look like shelves so that they don't realize they are doors. It's perfect. But because she has no more money, she has to move. This place doesn't take Medicare.

We love where she is now, but $5000 a month is just too much to cover.
 
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