C
Chummer
A friend of mine recently freaked the fuck out when she couldn't deal with the fact that I have feelings for her and she might feel the same (as she came to me for a night of comfort etc).
There is more to the story but...
Anyways she recently cut me off completely. From quitting her job to get away from me to defriending me from myspace. She somewhat explained in some weird martyr/victim thing where she has to save herself from my false love and me so I can find someone else. etc etc childish bullshit.
Anyways, she was nice enough to leave a list of flaws I have, if she meant to leave it where I could find it here in the office I'm not sure, but anyways:
-No ambition or goals, educational or career
(I'm more family orientened in my goals so...)
-No interest in personal health or appearance
(I'm a t-shirt and jeans guy, and yea I could eat better)
-Narrow Spiritual Focus
(Her religion seems to change weekly, I'm a plain old Christian.)
-Too Sensitive
(Got me there)
-Too many "tune-out" hobbies
(I like comics and video games, which she feels is time wasting. Read a book!)
-Believes in necassary violence
(I like horror movies, she does not. I also think the world is to complicated to have all its problems solved with love and talking)
-No artistic or creative ability
(She's a passionate artist, I like tv so...)
-Weak-Willed
(Thats a toughy, not so much as i go by what others say, I just find that i'm more apathetic -as in go with the flow- to certian things.)
-Not environmentally conscious
(Not really sure where this comes from... i don't have a garden?)
-Doesn't contribute to the world
(She likes to "fight the power", even by atleast just talking about it. Where as I know I'm just a small fish in a large ocean. Although, i do donate to charity on a monthly basis if that counts.)
-Not especially witty or intelligent
(Pot Kettle Black? Actually she is highly intelligent, so much it impresses me. As for me... eh.. she could be right there.)
-Narrow food choices
(Shes a veggie, which limits her choices? But I'm not much of a cook so in a way she pegged me there)
-Not spontaneous or adventurous
(She feels she's "lived" cause she stole a car and drove to Florida when she was 15. Has been in orgies, and tried drugs. She's "LIVED". I've been a good boy my whole life, which I suppose does make me a tad boring.)
So yea, I have found the last couple of weeks pretty jarring and hurtful. The friendship finally imploded today for such weird reasons.
My word of advice: Don't stick it in the crazy. Even if he/she's been one of your best friends for over a decade. Or simply: Don't sleep with your friends, it never ends well.
There is more to the story but...
Anyways she recently cut me off completely. From quitting her job to get away from me to defriending me from myspace. She somewhat explained in some weird martyr/victim thing where she has to save herself from my false love and me so I can find someone else. etc etc childish bullshit.
Anyways, she was nice enough to leave a list of flaws I have, if she meant to leave it where I could find it here in the office I'm not sure, but anyways:
-No ambition or goals, educational or career
(I'm more family orientened in my goals so...)
-No interest in personal health or appearance
(I'm a t-shirt and jeans guy, and yea I could eat better)
-Narrow Spiritual Focus
(Her religion seems to change weekly, I'm a plain old Christian.)
-Too Sensitive
(Got me there)
-Too many "tune-out" hobbies
(I like comics and video games, which she feels is time wasting. Read a book!)
-Believes in necassary violence
(I like horror movies, she does not. I also think the world is to complicated to have all its problems solved with love and talking)
-No artistic or creative ability
(She's a passionate artist, I like tv so...)
-Weak-Willed
(Thats a toughy, not so much as i go by what others say, I just find that i'm more apathetic -as in go with the flow- to certian things.)
-Not environmentally conscious
(Not really sure where this comes from... i don't have a garden?)
-Doesn't contribute to the world
(She likes to "fight the power", even by atleast just talking about it. Where as I know I'm just a small fish in a large ocean. Although, i do donate to charity on a monthly basis if that counts.)
-Not especially witty or intelligent
(Pot Kettle Black? Actually she is highly intelligent, so much it impresses me. As for me... eh.. she could be right there.)
-Narrow food choices
(Shes a veggie, which limits her choices? But I'm not much of a cook so in a way she pegged me there)
-Not spontaneous or adventurous
(She feels she's "lived" cause she stole a car and drove to Florida when she was 15. Has been in orgies, and tried drugs. She's "LIVED". I've been a good boy my whole life, which I suppose does make me a tad boring.)
So yea, I have found the last couple of weeks pretty jarring and hurtful. The friendship finally imploded today for such weird reasons.
My word of advice: Don't stick it in the crazy. Even if he/she's been one of your best friends for over a decade. Or simply: Don't sleep with your friends, it never ends well.