Rant VIII: The Reckoning

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I would say this is beyond debate. Doctors should not be pushing religion on their patients, especially after the patient explicitly asked them to stop. Get a new doctor ASAP.
 
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Been there, done that. About 18 months ago, my family GP found Jesus and decided to proselytize at every check-up. I could blow it off--my grandparents were Sunday School teachers. I got used to blowing off the pressure.

But then when he brought out some affirmations that had religious context for my autistic son to read out loud, I had to draw the line. The boy was there for a release to go back to gym after a bout with illness. There was nothing in his condition that would warrant some 'uplifting'. And since he's autistic, he takes many things very literally. I certainly didn't want him *indoctrinated*.

So, I complained to the practice and asked to be moved to a new doctor. They told me that was against their policy--so I told them to transfer all of my medical records to a doctor up the road, and that's where I've been going ever since.
 
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I think I need a new family doctor. My current one makes me feel worse with each visit. The worst thing is that he keeps pushing me to "go back to church" or "find a religion." Yesterday, I PLEADED to him to stop pushing religion on me, but he wouldn't stop.

I'm not a religious person. I was raised Catholic, but I grew away from that. My experiences with religious people have been largely negative and I want no part of that. Most (not all) religious people I've met are pushy, judgmental, or use it to push hateful rhetoric.

I'm agnostic at best. My Catholic upbringing instilled a sense that SOMETHING else is out there, but I don't know what it is and it's not my place to tell someone else what it is or how to live their life according to some outdated scriptures.

And I've tried explaining that to my family doctor, but he doesn't stop. He doesn't know how to speak to someone with mental illness, either, because as I said, I wind up feeling MORE depressed every time I leave his office. He's not helping me anymore.
That’s completely unacceptable and I’m sitting here angry on your behalf reading this. My family doctor and I have very different beliefs and that’s ok. He’s never pushed anything on us and he’s very good with many situations. I’m seeing him later this week and if our area isn’t too far, I can ask if they’re taking new patients in exceptional situations.

If it’s too far, you can call 811 to get on a list for a new doctor. I wouldn’t toss yours until you have a new one. Once you have a new one, drop the old one ASAP and report him!
 
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I once had a psychologist ask me if this situation was like what God provided the Israelites in the desert...and I was all "Hengh? Sorry man, you got me."


Apparently it's a pretty well-known story *shrug*. I thought it was Jonas and the Whale - apparently it's Jonah.
 
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To be more specific and less general than my earlier post, anyone, doctor or not, who repeatedly attempts to push religion on someone they see as impressionable due to being at a low point in their life... should be jettisoned. He’s a doctor, not a recruiter for some MLM.

—Patrick
 
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and i quote, after my dad died, "While you feel the warm touch of your creator, I feel nothing, please save your energy, I have no interest in your impotent god..."
 
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These stories are appalling. I cried once at a specialist appointment. The doctor thought I was sad because if the news he was giving me. No, I was enraged by his shitty behavior and I guess I cried in rage rather than freak out.

He came right out and told me that he only bothered to accept my referral because my case seemed interesting and it looked like I was having strokes and at my age that’s really interesting to him and as late in his career as he is, he can pick and choose. So, when I wasn’t having strokes he had no interest in helping. He refused to write me a prescription because “then I’d call him with my issues”. What a douche. He then made a weird remark about how much he liked my tattoos. His report took months and months too for extra douchiness.

I don’t hate many people, but he’s on the list with my cousin’s ex, my old screamer-boss and a super old boss who said terrible things to me.
 
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It’s on like Donkey Kong. The douche lords, I mean slum lords that own the property I work at, removed my accessible parking spot today.

I’m going full bitch mode.
 
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It’s on like Donkey Kong. The douche lords, I mean slum lords that own the property I work at, removed my accessible parking spot today.

I’m going full bitch mode.
That sounds like a fun lawsuit! Seriously though, sic 'em - from what you've written here, they sound like they need a good ass kicking.
 
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It’s likely personal because I call in constantly. Silly me, I don’t want to work with:

Spiders
Wolf spiders
Mice
Dead mice
What they poop
Bugs
Dead bugs
Wall of larva

That’s just the four and eight legged extra guests. We have other extra guests and a whole host of revolting and dangerous maintenance issues.
 
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I wish I could say this decade has been good, but it hasn't. I finally got my undergraduate degree after 12 years of off-and-on going to school, which didn't really do anything for me. I dropped out my Education program because I couldn't cut it as a teacher. I published two novels through a small publisher; they haven't sold well and I've basically given up on writing. I earned a yoga teaching certificate and haven't taught a single class since earning it.

I've had multiple mental breakdowns, suicide attempts, and hospital stays. I've struggled and failed to find happiness or contentment. I've lived with my parents for six years now because I can't get my life together. I'm lonely as hell, spend most of my time alone, and have given up on the idea of finding someone because I'm not worth being with.

Facebook's Memories reminded me of my last major suicide attempt two years ago today. I wish I could say I'm any better now as I was then, but I'm not. I'm not suicidal, but I have no hope. No hope for me, my future, or the future of our planet. The way I'm feeling, I'm honestly surprised I'm NOT feeling suicidal.
 
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That's actually a good thing in a way.

Look, I haven't had the greatest of decades - and a little secret, Nick: I had a few suicidal thoughts along the way (then I realized it was a side effect of medication). But I'm here, on the other side.

EDIT: oh, and this just in - Fuck Cancer. Hard.
 
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*sigh* I can't sleep. Been severely depressed lately. Got into a big fight with my parents yesterday. Didn't go to work and spent the whole day playing a video game. Barely eaten. What's the point? My life is worthless. The whole world is going to hell 8n every way imaginable and it's only getting wire by the day. Nothing matters anymore.
 
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I've also had insomnia of late, going to bed as late as 5a (shredding my NYResolution in the process). The fight with my wife was last week*. Spent most of my day off today staring at my 19-item to-do list while playing video games instead. I estimate it would take me about 5hrs to do the entire list, so long as I'm smart about it (e.g., do other things while the laundry is going). But I only did 4 out of the 19 and about 5 of the ones remaining have a deadline of Wed by 10am and I'm going to be at work all Tue. My entire lunch today was just 4 cheesy bites. And yes, the world at large continues to circle the drain and thinngs don't look encouraging.

But however coincidentally similar our lives have been today, I still intend to go to work tomorrow. I'll be heading to sleep once this post is done (instead of staying up until 5 again), and tomorrow I am going to have chicken/rice/cheese casserole leftovers to look forward to. And I guess what I'm saying is, if your brain is instead telling you shtuff like "There's no point" when it should instead be working up with a plan for dealing with tomorrow, then that means it's (past?) time to phone a friend, if not a licensed professional. I hope there's at least someone who can help you keep it together until the cold front finishes blowing through and your brain starts making sense of the world again, and I hope you overcome your stubbornness before you sink so low that you get to where you can no longer even lift a phone.

And now it's off to bed, dangit.

--Patrick
*The sort of thing that's of monumental importance to us, but probably not even a blip for anyone else. We've resolved it, now.
 
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*sigh* I can't sleep. Been severely depressed lately. Got into a big fight with my parents yesterday. Didn't go to work and spent the whole day playing a video game. Barely eaten. What's the point? My life is worthless. The whole world is going to hell 8n every way imaginable and it's only getting wire by the day. Nothing matters anymore.
Which game?

Also, sorry to hear you're not doing well.
 
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My only advice on this whole matter is unplugging. I have to keep doing it to keep myself sane. Focus on the people around you. Try to reconnect with people in your life you've lost touch with. This has helped me immensely lately. The world is a God damn nightmare and social media only exacerbates it.
 
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My only advice on this whole matter is unplugging. I have to keep doing it to keep myself sane. Focus on the people around you. Try to reconnect with people in your life you've lost touch with. This has helped me immensely lately. The world is a God damn nightmare and social media only exacerbates it.
To add on this, try to find a reason to leave the house every day. Even if it's just to go to the store. I know at the height (low?) of my depression I would just stay in playing video games, never getting dressed, never even showering. I'd say I would do something about it tomorrow, and then the next day became a week, and then a month, and it's just this process of deevolution where you sink deeper and deeper.

It's hard to make yourself go out. I can't say I always succeeded in making myself go out, but little victories add up.
 
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For real, try not to let your brain eat itself. The insidious thing about depression is the negative feedback loop.
 
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omfg Amazon customer service is dumb as rocks

My (80 year old) grandmother sent me a package by accident from amazon. I am trying to return it to them, and they can only associate a return label with her account and expect me to just log in to her account to print it even though she literally lives 2000 miles away from me and I don't want to make her share passwords with me if she doesn't want to. She forwarded me the email, but it does me no good because it doesn't even have a picture of the shipping label, just the link associated with her account.

I'm not even going to get in to trying to get her to make a pdf or jpg of the printing label. It is not going to work out. Then Amazon tells me to get her password and log in to her account. Great Amazon, way to promote account security there. So now I'm just going to sit here on the support chat and be obstinate about it until they find a way for me to get it without having to get my grandmother's password.
 
omfg Amazon customer service is dumb as rocks

My (80 year old) grandmother sent me a package by accident from amazon. I am trying to return it to them, and they can only associate a return label with her account and expect me to just log in to her account to print it even though she literally lives 2000 miles away from me and I don't want to make her share passwords with me if she doesn't want to. She forwarded me the email, but it does me no good because it doesn't even have a picture of the shipping label, just the link associated with her account.

I'm not even going to get in to trying to get her to make a pdf or jpg of the printing label. It is not going to work out. Then Amazon tells me to get her password and log in to her account. Great Amazon, way to promote account security there. So now I'm just going to sit here on the support chat and be obstinate about it until they find a way for me to get it without having to get my grandmother's password.
This seems like the perfect opportunity to post an "Amazon is instructing me to ask a family member to violate account security . . . ."
 
Can't sleep. I shouldn't be that surprised after I went back to bed earlier this afternoon due to sheer depression.

Probably means I'll be to tired to go to work tomorrow. I wasn't sure if I'd go in, anyway. Probably going to lose my job soon due to absences.
 
Im quitting my job. I have been working hard and have been the only one who was on my payscale who hasnt quit. Its a high stress job, but I enjoyed it.
They employed 2 people at my level who make more then me from the get go. I went to my boss and requested for a raise of around 300€ a month before taxes.

Was denies immediately. I know for a fact that the competition pays more than us and is looking, so I guess im going to knock on their door.

Another way would be to change directions. I always wanted to be a Systems Admin and there is a very good chance that I could get a spot at an college for it.
But I am afraid that with 34 im too old, since I would be almost 37 when im done with the course.
 
But I am afraid that with 34 im too old, since I would be almost 37 when im done with the course.
I'm just getting my degree this year, at 34. My mother? She got her teaching degree in her 40's and a masters after that. My current professor didn't start his doctorate until '99 and that was after decades of doing stuff like working at paper mills, running gun ranges, and more. I've had classmates older than me just starting out.

I assure you, you aren't too old.
 
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