I could post this anonymously, but I think it would be obvious that I was the one asking.
I never wanted to have children. I love my daughter with all my being, but I didn't want to have her in the first place. My wife and I talked about it a long time ago and we decided to have a child, but only one. Our pregnancy was a difficult one. We almost lost her a few times. It was an experience I don't want to repeat. We also decided that I was going to get a vasectomy eventually because the side effects on my wife with other methods. We decided that if things were going ok in the future, we could even adopt a child.Now, seven years later, I have a date for my vasectomy and my wife is having second thoughts. She wants another baby and I really don't want to. I don't know if I should go on with the surgery or try to have a baby. I want to make my wife happy but this is something I can't do for her. What can I say to her?
I never wanted to have children. I love my daughter with all my being, but I didn't want to have her in the first place. My wife and I talked about it a long time ago and we decided to have a child, but only one. Our pregnancy was a difficult one. We almost lost her a few times. It was an experience I don't want to repeat. We also decided that I was going to get a vasectomy eventually because the side effects on my wife with other methods. We decided that if things were going ok in the future, we could even adopt a child.Now, seven years later, I have a date for my vasectomy and my wife is having second thoughts. She wants another baby and I really don't want to. I don't know if I should go on with the surgery or try to have a baby. I want to make my wife happy but this is something I can't do for her. What can I say to her?