So we moved the date to next Wednesday. The original plan called for me driving to her town, meeting up in the late afternoon and walking through downtown (at least what passes for it in such a small place), then going to a cafe and leaving separately. Now she's alluding to the possibility of having dinner at her place. I'm eager to see where this leads.
Would this be too insistent?
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GasBandit
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Hokay. Cake, you are pretending to be chambermaid, and vacuum creanar, you are preasantry surprised. This reads to sex. Now... ACTION.
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makare
That's awesome ^_^ Good luck to you
Rock on dude!
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Jiarn
Details man! Details!
Okay, so we met and walked through downtown (both square blocks of it) and browsed some of the shops. Then we had ice cream at an old-fashioned soda fountain and took her car to see Dawn Treader at a small movie theater. Do you remember when you only had to pay $5 for a movie ticket and $2 for popcorn? After that, she drove me back to my car and said she'd like to do something like this again after the holidays (yeah, she beat me to it). Then we hugged and parted ways. Looking back, maybe I could've gotten away with a kiss. But I wasn't gonna try that on our first date.
We're both leaving for break today; I'm headed to San Diego and she's got family in the Houston area. After Christmas and the craziness associated with that holiday, I'll try to start planning out the second date with her. And btw, I baked brownies last week and saved her some. I guess girls like a guy who knows his way around the kitchen. With Christmas coming up and after talking with her for months I wanted to get her SOMETHING, but nothing too big otherwise that might have scared her off. So I think I did well there.
We're both leaving for break today; I'm headed to San Diego and she's got family in the Houston area. After Christmas and the craziness associated with that holiday, I'll try to start planning out the second date with her. And btw, I baked brownies last week and saved her some. I guess girls like a guy who knows his way around the kitchen. With Christmas coming up and after talking with her for months I wanted to get her SOMETHING, but nothing too big otherwise that might have scared her off. So I think I did well there.
Yay, for you.
I love that theater.
I love that theater.
I sent her a text yesterday, wishing her a safe trip home. I'm gonna leave her alone for today because I know things feel a little weird after the first date, and the last thing I want is to seem overbearing.
So what do I do now? We won't see each other for a month. I intend to keep talking with her every other day or so, and then start planning out the second date together after New Year's. Any advice?
So what do I do now? We won't see each other for a month. I intend to keep talking with her every other day or so, and then start planning out the second date together after New Year's. Any advice?
Date other people.
I’d suggest to stop being a pussy!
I won’t give you a hard time but… does she every call YOU? Does she ever text YOU without YOU talking to her first or have to call you back?
I can see what you’re worried about this long delay but that’s the way the cookie crumbles. You need to diversify and get to meet perhaps another person and put yourself out there because you’re just setting yourself up if things don’t go your way. Meeting another slice can take your mind off things and you can simply go out there and have some fun.
Remember, you’re not exclusive with the dame and to think you are will be a shame to your game. She’s gone for a MONTH. A LOT of things can possibly change in that month. Heck, she’ll have a full period cycle without you being around. That’s fucken huge.
Don’t call her every other day because that would be overbearing. Get HER to call YOU instead and alternate your calls. After the holidays are done, start talking about what fun things you guys can do together.
I’d also suggest to take a wack before you do call her, so you won’t sound lonely and desperate as I’m strongly thinking you’d sound like.
I won’t give you a hard time but… does she every call YOU? Does she ever text YOU without YOU talking to her first or have to call you back?
I can see what you’re worried about this long delay but that’s the way the cookie crumbles. You need to diversify and get to meet perhaps another person and put yourself out there because you’re just setting yourself up if things don’t go your way. Meeting another slice can take your mind off things and you can simply go out there and have some fun.
Remember, you’re not exclusive with the dame and to think you are will be a shame to your game. She’s gone for a MONTH. A LOT of things can possibly change in that month. Heck, she’ll have a full period cycle without you being around. That’s fucken huge.
Don’t call her every other day because that would be overbearing. Get HER to call YOU instead and alternate your calls. After the holidays are done, start talking about what fun things you guys can do together.
I’d also suggest to take a wack before you do call her, so you won’t sound lonely and desperate as I’m strongly thinking you’d sound like.
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makare
A month is not that long of a time and it's the holidays. Just call her every once in a while (it helps if you have something specific to talk about that way you don''t do the whole, how are you? fine how are you? fine *silence* thing) to stay connected. Try not to worry about it.
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Chibibar
unless you happen to be "exclusive" then don't call her. I have to agree with Jay. If she calls you then take the call and enjoy the time and call her back (return the favor) but if you are doing all the initiating, then it is not a two way relationship.
No its not odd. Every time Ive been going out with someone I seem to get more attention from the ladies. I think it has to do with the fact that youre not trying as hard, not nervous about screwing up which always seems to lead to you screwing up and you are being yourself since there is no pressure to try and get a date. Enjoy yourself and hope things keep going well.
LOL... not at all. It's how it is. My buddy Peter and I spoke about this last weekend while we were heading to watch Tron... we called it the "Women Anti-Single Radar".
GasBandit
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As the others said, it's normal. Your desirability rises inversely to your availability. Just wait till you're "exclusive." Then the poontang will practically launch itself at you, legs spread.
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Chibibar
LOL... not at all. It's how it is. My buddy Peter and I spoke about this last weekend while we were heading to watch Tron... we called it the "Women Anti-Single Radar".[/QUOTE]
I actually this is to be true. While I was single and just having fun, I don't get as many dates, but the moment I become exclusive, I get tons of offer and worst, after I got married.
My wife has given an evil eye or two to some women who are trying to make a move on me.
There are some competitive women out there, that act like you are not worth their time if you are not stolen from another woman.
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Chibibar
heh. I guess that is true, but I believe I act the same way when I'm single and when I'm married (i.e. personality wise) but I have to go with Six's idea, but if you look deeper that idea is flaw. If you (the general you) can steal a man from someone what prevent that man get stolen or leave for another?
Also being attached shows you have attachment value - after all, some dumbass likes your dumbass so you must have some redeeming qualities somewhere. It's like buying a used car off the lot. You wouldn't buy the one that has obviously been untouched for years and years, sitting rotting and rusting in the back corner of the lot. However, the recent trade-in, while having been taken around the block a couple times, must have had some merit for it to have been driven for so long.
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makare
Women are also competitive and are willing to fight each other over pretty much anything. I lost a best friend because we got into a fight over a guy neither of us even liked.
So explain that shit.
So explain that shit.
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makare
I don't know if it is always vanity. A lot of the time it is more envy like oh she seems happy I want that happiness for myself.
Unfortunately the happiness is often a front for unhappiness underneath.
Unfortunately the happiness is often a front for unhappiness underneath.
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Jiarn
It is most definitely not limited to women. I've seen MORE than my share of guys who purposelly look for women who are in relationships.
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makare
Yeah people are alike all over. Men and women have more in common than not.
Okay, here's what happened. She got back to civilization and we talked a couple more times. I was going to wait until I got back to Texas to talk about hanging out again. By the way, she organized a weight-loss fundraiser for cancer research; she's trying to lose weight until April 1 and sponsors donate a certain amount of money per pound, and I'm sponsoring her too (MAJOR points for me). We talked on Facebook about just anything in general and it was a lot of fun. Then, a couple weeks back, she said she needed to check on the oven and I haven't heard from her since. I sent her a couple of texts over the next week and she never got back to me. I can take a hint but don't really understand what happened.
It's not like this was a long, slow decline; we didn't have any arguments and everything had been great... then nothing, yet she is still on my Facebook. I can still try to talk to her over FB or Skype if I wanted to but I am not going to beg. And yes, I'm still going to sponsor her in the fund-raiser because it can help a lot of people and I already said I would. After all, what kind of guy would I be to pull out of a charitable thing like that just because a girl stopped talking to me?
Before you say it, I'm talking with another match too and that seems to be working out. So it's not like I set myself up to be alone.
It's not like this was a long, slow decline; we didn't have any arguments and everything had been great... then nothing, yet she is still on my Facebook. I can still try to talk to her over FB or Skype if I wanted to but I am not going to beg. And yes, I'm still going to sponsor her in the fund-raiser because it can help a lot of people and I already said I would. After all, what kind of guy would I be to pull out of a charitable thing like that just because a girl stopped talking to me?
Before you say it, I'm talking with another match too and that seems to be working out.
So it's not like I set myself up to be alone.
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maybe she has a bun in there...
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Jiarn
-laugh- Nice!
It is hard to know if a girl is playing hard to get, or she just wants you to go away. I generally take it as the second after you call a few times and never hear back. I'd prefer if people would have the nerve to say no.
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