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Mar 23, 2014#1

Naiwen

So what's your thoughts about Asians dating Caucasians? I've seen so many mixed couples in the streets, that it doesn't rattle me anymore. Before that, I was surprised at how many Caucasian/Asian couples there are in my city. And I seem to attract Caucasian men mostly (I'm a Chinese girl). I've no idea why Asian men don't find me attractive, but White men do. (My boyfriend is White).

Mar 23, 2014#2

Jay

How about, what is everyone's thoughts on Caucasians dating Asians?

My thoughts are... absolutely nothing. I'm white and dated 2 Asian girls (1 Japanese, 1 Chinese) but I don't think my experiences should be covered here.

I'll be blunt, if someone is living in a place like Canada and they don't find it acceptable for people of different races being together, then these people are better off going back to their country of origin. They missed the point of what Canada should be.

Mar 23, 2014#3

ThatNickGuy

Why did you make a separate thread for this? We were already discussing this issue in the "So my Boyfriend is Caucasian White" thread.

Mar 23, 2014#4

Naiwen

ThatNickGuy said:
Why did you make a separate thread for this? We were already discussing this issue in the "So my Boyfriend is Caucasian White" thread.

This is for general thoughts about Caucasians dating Asians, not my personal issue.

Mar 23, 2014#5

ThatNickGuy

Naiwen said:
This is for general thoughts about Caucasians dating Asians, not my personal issue.

It's the EXACT same theme, though, and as I said, we were already discussing it outside of your personal issues.

Mar 23, 2014#6

Gilgamesh

Naiwen said:
So what's your thoughts about Asians dating Caucasians? I've seen so many mixed couples in the streets, that it doesn't rattle me anymore. Before that, I was surprised at how many Caucasian/Asian couples there are in my city. And I seem to attract Caucasian men mostly (I'm a Chinese girl). I've no idea why Asian men don't find me attractive, but White men do. (My boyfriend is White).

Let's just cut to the jib here:
What are YOUR thoughts on Blacks dating Whites?
Arabs dating Asians?
Germans dating French?

What are my thoughts? Race doesn't matter 1 bit, all that matters are the two people involved. The only time your family should interfere with who you date is when you're under 18.

Mar 23, 2014#7

Ravenpoe

I'm against it. Races should stick with their own kind. In fact, it can be hard to tell just what race most people are, as geneologically they could have any number of ethnicities that mixed in their past. Studies have even found NEANDERTHAL dna in people, so to make sure we don't risk accidentally dating someone of a slightly different arbitrary hue as you, we should all just date within our own family.

jk lol

Mar 23, 2014#8

Naiwen

I just don't get something, why do White men think Asian girls are pretty and beautiful? I mean, there are White girls who are much more beautiful and prettier than Asian girls.

Mar 23, 2014#9

ThatNickGuy

I'm into Asian women because I want to spread my North American superiority to other, inferior cultures.

Mar 23, 2014#10

Tinwhistler

Naiwen said:
I just don't get something, why do White men think Asian girls are pretty and beautiful? I mean, there are White girls who are much more beautiful and prettier than Asian girls.

fetish

fet·ish

[fet-ish, fee-tish] Show IPA
noun
1.
an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2.
any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.
3.
Psychology . any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

Mar 23, 2014#11

Ravenpoe

Naiwen said:
I just don't get something, why do White men think Asian girls are pretty and beautiful? I mean, there are White girls who are much more beautiful and prettier than Asian girls.

The same reason you're into Caucasian men. They're different, and people are often attracted to what they see as exotic.

Mar 23, 2014#12

Naiwen

Tinwhistler said:
fetish

fet·ish

[fet-ish, fee-tish] Show IPA
noun
1.
an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2.
any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.
3.
Psychology . any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

I don't get why White men have a fetish for Asian women. Some Asian women are really ugly and homely, compared to White women.

Mar 23, 2014#13

Jay

Naiwen said:
I just don't get something, why do White men think Asian girls are pretty and beautiful? I mean, there are White girls who are much more beautiful and prettier than Asian girls.

No idea.

Mar 23, 2014#14

phil

Something something wanna put the cauc back into the asian.

You get the idea.

Mar 23, 2014#15

Terrik

Naiwen said:
I just don't get something, why do White men think Asian girls are pretty and beautiful? I mean, there are White girls who are much more beautiful and prettier than Asian girls.

Im getting married to a Chinese girl--but lets play a game of percentages. The number of Asians in China is 99+%. The number of white girls in China is less than 1%. A female of which race is the one I'm most likely to date?

The answer is clear: I clearly wasn't popular enough with the expat crowd.

Also, I've dated girls purely on looks alone. It doesn't always end well. I'm attracted to my fiance, make no mistake, but we're together based on compatibility.

Mar 23, 2014#16

ThatNickGuy

Naiwen said:
I don't get why White men have a fetish for Asian women. Some Asian women are really ugly and homely, compared to White women.

That's assuming beauty is only to one race. There are ugly and beautiful people in every race and gender. I could remove the "Asian" and "White" parts of that sentence and it'd be the same.

Mar 23, 2014#17

Naiwen

Ravenpoe said:
The same reason you're into Caucasian men. They're different, and people are often attracted to what they see as exotic.

But what they see as exotic, is ugly and homely to me. For example, 1 White guy was dating an Asian girl, the White guy was very handsome looking and the Asian girl, very ugly to me. I think White men tend to pick ugly Asian girls over the Asian "standards of beauty".

Mar 23, 2014#18

Ravenpoe

Naiwen said:
But what they see as exotic, is ugly and homely to me

Because you are asian, hence why they are not exotic to you. Different people will have different ideas of beauty, shocking I know.

Also, it may be possible that they have an attraction to each other that is less superficial than outward appearance.

Mar 23, 2014#19

Jay

Naiwen said:
But what they see as exotic, is ugly and homely to me. For example, 1 White guy was dating an Asian girl, the White guy was very handsome looking and the Asian girl, very ugly to me. I think White men tend to pick ugly Asian girls over the Asian "standards of beauty".

Interesting. Show me picture examples.

Mar 23, 2014#20

Naiwen

Jay said:
Interesting. Show me picture examples.

I don't have pictures, sorry. But yeah, the girl was extremely ugly in my eyes. But he (the White guy) found her very attractive, I don't get why.

Mar 23, 2014#21

ThatNickGuy

Naiwen said:
I don't have pictures, sorry. But yeah, the girl was extremely ugly in my eyes. But he (the White guy) found her very attractive, I don't get why.

That's why. Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Mar 23, 2014#22

Gilgamesh

Naiwen said:
I don't have pictures, sorry. But yeah, the girl was extremely ugly in my eyes. But he (the White guy) found her very attractive, I don't get why.

Of course you have pictures, this is the digital/facebook age, the correct response is that you don't want to show pictures here.

Mar 23, 2014#23

Ravenpoe

ThatNickGuy said:
That's why. Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Don't be silly, people don't have different thoughts, preferences, beliefs or experiences. Everyone thinks exactly the way I do, unless they're wrong, of course.

Mar 23, 2014#24

Naiwen

Gilgamesh said:
Of course you have pictures, this is the digital/facebook age, the correct response is that you don't want to show pictures here.

For example me, Caucasian men are attracted to me and say I'm beautiful, but not Asian men.

Mar 23, 2014#25

Gilgamesh

Naiwen said:
For example me, Caucasian are attracted to me and say I'm beautiful, but not Asian men.

I think you replied to the wrong person.

Mar 23, 2014#26

Jay

Naiwen said:
For example me, Caucasian men are attracted to me and say I'm beautiful, but not Asian men.

Pics!

Mar 23, 2014#27

Naiwen

Jay said:
Pics!

View attachment 14254

Sorry, I don't post pics of myself on the internet.

Mar 23, 2014#28

Gilgamesh

Naiwen said:
Sorry, I don't post pics of myself on the internet.

Of course you have pictures, this is the digital/facebook age, the correct response is that you don't want to show pictures here.

Mar 23, 2014#29

Krisken

http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2000/12/face.aspx

Mar 23, 2014#30

tinabeebz

I'm Asian American, first generation through my Filipina mother, and have actually spent a lot of my adult life wondering this, and a majority of my academic career investigating the relationship dynamic between Euro-centric Western Culture vs. Asian Culture. A lot of the dynamic boils down to concepts which intertwine and emphasize the other and what can be in an almost toxic fashion: Post-Colonialism & Fetishization.

What's post-colonialism? Long story short, it's a school of thought that focuses on the Dominant & Submissive relationship between colonizing forces (I.E., The U.S., British Empire, Portugal, Spain, all dem Europeans) and those colonized (I.E. The Philippines for example! I've studied so much of that). It's hundreds and hundreds of years in the making, and engrains particular mindsets of 'what is right' into society. An important concept I've grown up with and studied has been shadism, which is a similiar manifestation to racism, but exhibits itself in terms of skin tone (kayumangi/dark vs maputi/pale). Pale skin tone is equated to higher class, better lineage, and physical beauty while dark skin is equated to indigenous background, lower class, lower education, etc (So in the Philippines, being pale meant you were of Spanish descent, thus rich and educated, while being dark symbolized being indigenous and poor). Shadism has practices such as daily skin bleaching, whitening make-up, contact lenses to make your eyes look larger, and cosmetic surgeries to create a fold in the eyelid like westerners have. My family does all of this and it ain't no thang. The first time I ever got make up, my mother gave me a compact of white powder, and told me that I was already lucky to be beautiful as a half American, and white powder would only highlight that. In Post-Colonial cultures, the submissive/colonized people are taught to idolize and aspire to be like the dominant people. I was actually encouraged to date white boys when I was younger, not realizing all the implications. All the women in my family are. Dating somebody with an ethnic background isn't frowned upon, but it isn't praised in the same way that a dating somebody white is.

On the other end, there's festishization. Which is the ebb to the flow of post-colonalism. The concept of a fetish is pretty understandable to most considering the familiarity of pornography, and is centric on sexualizing stereotypes on a certain people that may not always be true. In simplest terms, there's a lot to Asian stereotypes but if we boil it down to plain rhetoric, there's the Virgin Vs. Whore dichotomy. On one end of the stereotype, pornography creates an image of Asian women as submissive and sexual creatures. On the other end, Asian women are cast as victims constantly crying for their white savior. Also, because of the power structures behind shadism, if you're a dark/Asian woman and you have children with a white man, giving them a lighter skin tone is a way for them to elevate class, which in itself is considered a gift to those children. Here's a good video that goes a little more into what it is like for Asian women to struggle with these stereotypes and the pressure to pursue relationships with white men:

Last summer,
I met a boy who spoke like rain against windows. -
He had his father's blue eyes.
He'd press his wrist against mine and say he was too pale.
That my skin was so much more beautiful.
To him, I was Pacific sunset,
almond milk, a porcelain cup.
When he left me, I told myself I should have seen it coming.
I wasn't sure I was sad but I cried anyway.
Girls who look like me
are supposed to cry over boys who look like him.
I'd seen all the movies and read all the books.
We were just following the plot.

Speaking from personal experience, my whole existence tethers on this dynamic. My mother comes from a culture that idolizes the white man, so falling in love with a white man was a lofty dream that was easy to do. On the other end, my dad constantly tells me that had it not been for Karate Kid, I would not exist! He said he never really was attracted to Asian women until watching it, and then he met my mother. These two notions are problematic, but that doesn't mean they're all bad. Also, just because an Asian and a white person are dating, doesn't mean that all this messy business goes into that context. This is just a historical/academic perspective but doesn't reign 100% for everyone. A lot of people don't take into account ethnicity or race or political history when dating someone. Sometimes, you just fall in love with who you fall in love with and it doesn't matter what their skin color is. Sometimes, you watch Karate Kid and make three daughters with an Asian woman.

As far as dating white people goes, I've primarily dated white boys in my past because where I live, most people are of Polish/German descent, so that's what's about. A colored lady is more likely to date a white boy when there are more white boys around. That's my personal stance. Honestly, lately I've been more vibing into dating people with more ethnic & academic backgrounds because I actually really like studying what I study and those two things come together into person I can have really intense and awesome conversations with, so it's less about their skin color and more about our shared/similiar experiences.

Sorry. Kind of rambly. Maybe got some holes. Ask any questions cuz this is totally mah thaaaang.

Mar 23, 2014#31

LordRendar

Wooo. Kabayan.

Anyway, I am Half Asian/German and I am into Caucasian girls, and Latinas and Asians... you know what,
let me just let Flight of the Concords say what I mean.

Mar 23, 2014#32

WasabiPoptart

I don't care who dates/marries whom as long as they are good to each other and are happy together. Also, I'm living in Hawaii in a military community so I see people married to people of different heritages all the time.

Mar 23, 2014#33

Hailey Knight

Naiwen, it's occurred to me that you may not have experienced sonder yet. It happens to most people, but not all. It's the realization that everyone around you, every single human being, has a life as complicated as your own, has opinions shaped by experience and inner feelings, has memories, a mind, etc. It is less strange to find someone whose preferences differ from yours, and would be more strange if you found someone who saw everything exactly as you do. Each of us is a different person. It's strange to ask "why don't you see it my way?" It's a wiser assumption that someone is going to view things differently, because a person's way is only one way, but there are billions that are not.

In the same sense of your questions, one could ask you, why are you attracted to white guys? Hell, why are you even attracted to guys? I see nothing attractive about them, and can't fathom why anybody would want one.

Mar 23, 2014#34

Frank

Jay said:
How about, what is everyone's thoughts on Caucasians dating Asians?

My thoughts are... absolutely nothing. I'm white and dated 2 Asian girls (1 Japanese, 1 Chinese) but I don't think my experiences should be covered here.

I'll be blunt, if someone is living in a place like Canada and they don't find it acceptable for people of different races being together, then these people are better off going back to their country of origin. They missed the point of what Canada should be.

Yeah, I personally never have, but I have no preference against it. I have lots of friends who've interacially dated and married.

I definitely agree with the last statement.

Mar 23, 2014#35

Terrik

I thought the point of Canada was to be as cold as possible.

Mar 24, 2014#36

bhamv3

Terrik said:
I thought the point of Canada was to be as cold as possible.

While apologizing for it.

Mar 24, 2014#37

phil

phil said:
Something something wanna put the cauc back into the asian.

You get the idea.

Oh!

Something something like white on rice!

I'm half on fire tonight!

Mar 24, 2014#38

Terrik

Gotta put the peel back on the banana.

Mar 24, 2014#39

grub

bhamv3 said:
While apologizing for it.

Sorry?

Mar 24, 2014#40

ThatNickGuy

Terrik said:
I thought the point of Canada was to be as cold as possible.

Shhhh! You'll ruin the surprise for newbies!

Mar 24, 2014#41

Chad Sexington

I feel a lot of these threads can be answered with de gustibus non est disputandum, but no one speaks Latin anymore, so I'd just seem like a pretentious ass, and not a time-travelling centurion, which is what I'd prefer.

Mar 24, 2014#42

Celt Z

Chad Sexington said:
I feel a lot of these threads can be answered with de gustibus non est disputandum, but no one speaks Latin anymore, so I'd just seem like a pretentious ass, and not a time-travelling centurion, which is what I'd prefer.

Or "de gustibus aut bene, aut nihil"? But you raise a good point.

I don't speak Latin. I had to look all of that up.

Mar 24, 2014#43

Chad Sexington

Celt Z said:
Or "de gustibus aut bene, aut nihil"? But you raise a good point.

I don't speak Latin. I had to look all of that up.

I could get behind that. I don't mind critical discussion, but positivity is a more pleasant route, usually.

Mar 24, 2014#44

ThatNickGuy

Latin? More like LOSTin, am I right?

Mar 24, 2014#45

GasBandit

When I was a kid (under 10, I don't remember exactly when), my father got remarried. My stepmother is black.

Oh ho ho ho HO the looks we got eating out! Even in colorado! It was the 80s. Mostly from older people though.

Anyway, yeah... the whole Asian fetish thing is already covered. Could be even more odd, though - in Japan, they seem to think horrifying snaggleteeth are "cute" on girls.

Mar 24, 2014#46

Officer_Charon

Like whom you like. Don't hurt each other (BDSM nonwithstanding). Fuck the haters.

Everything else is irrelevant.

Mar 24, 2014#47

Just Me

GasBandit said:
Anyway, yeah... the whole Asian fetish thing is already covered. Could be even more odd, though - in Japan, they seem to think horrifying snaggleteeth are "cute" on girls.

And there you already answered yourself a lot of questions, didn't you!

Mar 24, 2014#48

Jay

Naiwen said:
Sorry, I don't post pics of myself on the internet.

Sorry. I'm calling you out on that. You can't claim that all Caucasians finding you attractive and not backing that up with a picture. That shit don't fly. For all I know, you're just some dude posing as a girl. It's been done before. No offense.

BTW all Asians girls and girls who cosplay from Salt Lake city find me charming and irresistible.

I'll even go one step further... you need to accept that you live in a country that these things are PERFECTLY NORMAL to normal people and the only stigma you see in this is basically coming from YOUR CULTURE. I'm a white man, born in Canada and speak 4 languages. Spanish and Italian origins and I dated girls with origins from Portugal, Spain, France, Italy, England, Greece, Romania, Germany, Lebanon, Armenia, Iran, Japanese, Chinese, Canadian, American, Haitian and Pakistani.

Black, White, Yellow, Brown, Orange... whatever.

Never gave a damn what some xenophobic fucks felt about me dating these girls.

You're the one creating threads stating how we feel on Asians dating Whites. The only and proper answer is that most civilized people don't care and nor should they.

Mar 24, 2014#49

Officer_Charon

Jay, dude, we're totally hanging out if I ever make it north of the border.

Mar 24, 2014#50

WasabiPoptart

Jay said:
Sorry. I'm calling you out on that. You can't claim that all Caucasians finding you attractive and not backing that up with a picture.

I don't know, Jay. If she's a minor, which I get the feeling she is, there may be some issue with her posting a pic (ie: my parents won't let me).

Mar 24, 2014#51

Jay

Officer_Charon said:
Jay, dude, we're totally hanging out if I ever make it north of the border.

I've been waiting for years man.[DOUBLEPOST=1395683096,1395683018][/DOUBLEPOST]

WasabiPoptart said:
I don't know, Jay. If she's a minor, which I get the feeling she is, there may be some issue with her posting a pic (ie: my parents won't let me).

Absolutely good point. Still needs to be properly educated though on etiquette.

BTW all ladies that live on an island find it easy to quote me.

Mar 24, 2014#52

Ravenpoe

WasabiPoptart said:
I don't know, Jay. If she's a minor, which I get the feeling she is, there may be some issue with her posting a pic (ie: my parents won't let me).

According to her profile on every other webforum she's a member of (and there's a lot of them) she's 26.

Mar 24, 2014#53

grub

All the Dutch girls I've dated have married me.

Am I doing it right?

Mar 24, 2014#54

GasBandit

grub said:
All the Dutch girls I've dated have married me.

Am I doing it right?

Hey, me too!

Mar 24, 2014#55

Jay

grub said:
All the Dutch girls I've dated have married me.

Am I doing it right?

Guess I started a new HF meme.

Mar 24, 2014#56

LittleKagsin

Jay said:
BTW all Asians girls and girls who cosplay from Salt Lake city find me charming and irresistible.

Wait...Salt Lake City...? How do you know people from Salt Lake? Do I know these people? Like Salt Lake City, Utah? Or is there another Salt Lake I'm not aware of..?

Mar 24, 2014#57

Necronic

Jay said:
Sorry. I'm calling you out on that. You can't claim that all Caucasians finding you attractive and not backing that up with a picture. That shit don't fly. For all I know, you're just some dude posing as a girl. It's been done before. No offense.

BTW all Asians girls and girls who cosplay from Salt Lake city find me charming and irresistible.

I'll even go one step further... you need to accept that you live in a country that these things are PERFECTLY NORMAL to normal people and the only stigma you see in this is basically coming from YOUR CULTURE. I'm a white man, born in Canada and speak 4 languages. Spanish and Italian origins and I dated girls with origins from Portugal, Spain, France, Italy, England, Greece, Romania, Germany, Lebanon, Armenia, Iran, Japanese, Chinese, Canadian, American, Haitian and Pakistani.

Black, White, Yellow, Brown, Orange... whatever.

Never gave a damn what some xenophobic fucks felt about me dating these girls.

You're the one creating threads stating how we feel on Asians dating Whites. The only and proper answer is that most civilized people don't care and nor should they.

You know....this post really bothers me on a couple of levels.

First off, she doesn't have to show you a picture if she doesn't want to. I'm surprised you think that's an acceptable demand. I think you've been spending too much time in the cosplay thread.

Second, I don't think she said there's anything wrong with the interracial couples, but she is simply trying to get some perspective from the other side of things. You seem to be jumping down her throat for no reason.

Mar 24, 2014#58

Jay

Necronic said:
You know....this post really bothers me on a couple of levels.

First off, she doesn't have to show you a picture if she doesn't want to. I'm surprised you think that's an acceptable demand. I think you've been spending too much time in the cosplay thread.

Second, I don't think she said there's anything wrong with the interracial couples, but she is simply trying to get some perspective from the other side of things. You seem to be jumping down her throat for no reason.

This post really bothers me on a couple of levels as well.

First off, HF members don't have to reply to a thread regarding race related questions comparing themselves to xenophobic people living in free non-native lands regarding their views of other races in some sort of relationship with one another. I'm surprised OP thinks this is an acceptable demand. I think OP is spending too much time with narrow minded people in their culture and the answer should be pretty fucking obvious.

Secondly, I don't think OP said anything wrong with the interracial couples as well but is simply trying to see if other people are equally narrow minded from her personal experiences and wishes to compare her experience with those of other cultures to them. Jay seems to try to educate that such things shouldn't be deemed acceptable.

Thirdly, OP shouldn't be exclaiming that most men of another race find her attractive and not back that shit up. Particularly since Jay is of that said unicorn race. This is HF and you should be called out on globalizations because after all.... all of HF finds Jay a reasonable, charismatic, take-no bullshit type of white guy that they love without fault.

Mar 24, 2014#59

Officer_Charon

I'd hit the Jay.

Mar 24, 2014#60

WasabiPoptart

Jay said:
BTW all ladies that live on an island find it easy to quote me.

You're just so quotable!

Mar 24, 2014#61

Ravenpoe

Officer_Charon said:
I'd hit the Jay.

With a hammer!

... you know what comes next.

Mar 24, 2014#62

Tress

Ravenpoe said:
With a hammer!

... you know what comes next.

The hammer is your penis?

Mar 24, 2014#63

WasabiPoptart

Ravenpoe said:
According to her profile on every other webforum she's a member of (and there's a lot of them) she's 26.

I find that odd considering her seeming preoccupation with dating, likes & dislikes, and fast food/junk food.

Mar 24, 2014#64

grub

There are 26 year olds like that. I don't know any personally but I used to. One of my wife's friends is like that and she is 34.

Anytime she comes around I leave.

Mar 24, 2014#65

Ravenpoe

WasabiPoptart said:
I find that odd considering her seeming preoccupation with dating, likes & dislikes, and fast food/junk food.

She could be very immature for her age.

Mar 24, 2014#66

WasabiPoptart

Ravenpoe said:
She could be very immature for her age.

Mar 24, 2014#67

Just Me

Ravenpoe said:
She could be very immature for her age.

Getting old is mandatory, growing up is optional.
Though I usually use this to describe me and my take-it-easy childish side, my immature part is just The Idiot (though more often than not the funny one).

Mar 24, 2014#68

ThatNickGuy

grub said:
All the Dutch girls I've dated have married me.

Am I doing it right?

Dammit man, that's not what people meant when they said "go Dutch."

Mar 24, 2014#69

GasBandit

And whenever I wanted to tease her about something, I'd refer to her original nationality as "Hollandaise."

Mar 24, 2014#70

Covar

GasBandit said:
And whenever I wanted to tease her about something, I'd refer to her original nationality as "Hollandaise."

Wow. Way to be an Egg Benedict.

Mar 24, 2014#71

blotsfan

Zero Esc said:
In the same sense of your questions, one could ask you, why are you attracted to white guys? Hell, why are you even attracted to guys? I see nothing attractive about them, and can't fathom why anybody would want one.

Shush. I'm worried that one day all women will have a sudden burst of clarity where they realize "wait, men are ugly. Why aren't we all lesbians again?" Please don't encourage it to come any faster.

Mar 24, 2014#72

WasabiPoptart

Mar 24, 2014#73

ThatNickGuy

blotsfan said:
Please don't encourage it to come any faster.

Mar 24, 2014#74

GasBandit

Mar 24, 2014#75

Hailey Knight

blotsfan said:
Shush. I'm worried that one day all women will have a sudden burst of clarity where they realize "wait, men are ugly. Why aren't we all lesbians again?" Please don't encourage it to come any faster.

It's something I've wondered. In recent years, I've noticed that a small percentage of women do genuinely like men. I don't know why. I'm pretty sure none of us have earned it.

(I judge this by the amount of complaining we cause.)

Mar 24, 2014#76

LittleKagsin

Zero Esc said:
It's something I've wondered. In recent years, I've noticed that a small percentage of women do genuinely like men. I don't know why. I'm pretty sure none of us have earned it.

(I judge this by the amount of complaining we cause.)

If it helps, men really do it for me (maybe I'm on oddity). They really really do.

Mar 24, 2014#77

WasabiPoptart

I like men, too! A lot. Unless I have to yell at them or they're whinging at me. Then they're irritating.

Mar 24, 2014#78

Hailey Knight

LittleKagsin said:
If it helps, men really do it for me (maybe I'm on oddity). They really really do.

But women have always been attracted to me and I just don't understand. What is this persrfsfsoifnmsekjfnslfmsflm

Nope, can't keep it up. I make a poor OP. What I actually have a hard time understanding is how someone doesn't understand that people see things differently, all things. I really don't think she's 26. When I got online as a 13-year-old, I would consistently mark myself as being several years older than I was. Difference being, my behavior backed it up and I'd typically be on forums where the people I conversed with were adults many years my senior.

My 11-year-old cousins seem to understand diversity and complexity of human thoughts, emotions, opinions quite well though, so age isn't exactly telling of maturity. I suppose OP could be 26. But that makes me sad.

Mar 24, 2014#79

Ravenpoe

Zero Esc said:
But women have always been attracted to me and I just don't understand. What is this persrfsfsoifnmsekjfnslfmsflm

Nope, can't keep it up. I make a poor OP. What I actually have a hard time understanding is how someone doesn't understand that people see things differently, all things. I really don't think she's 26. When I got online as a 13-year-old, I would consistently mark myself as being several years older than I was. Difference being, my behavior backed it up and I'd typically be on forums where the people I conversed with were adults many years my senior.

My 11-year-old cousins seem to understand diversity and complexity of human thoughts, emotions, opinions quite well though, so age isn't exactly telling of maturity. I suppose OP could be 26. But that makes me sad.

Well, it depends on cultural background too. I've known a few people in their 20's that seem surprisingly ignorant simply because they come from a close minded culture where critical thinking has been punished. I'd be curious to know how long she's been living in Canada.

Mar 24, 2014#80

Terrik

Ravenpoe said:
Well, it depends on cultural background too. I've known a few people in their 20's that seem surprisingly ignorant simply because they come from a close minded culture where critical thinking has been punished. I'd be curious to know how long she's been living in Canada.

Living in Canada or even being Canadian doesn't magically bestow you with the trait of being open-minded.

Mar 24, 2014#81

bhamv3

Terrik said:
Living in Canada or even being Canadian doesn't magically bestow you with the trait of being open-minded.

But it does, presumably, expose you to a culture that's not Chinese (her parents are Chinese, IIRC). Being exposed to different cultures generally does facilitate open-mindedness.

Mar 24, 2014#82

Ravenpoe

Terrik said:
Living in Canada or even being Canadian doesn't magically bestow you with the trait of being open-minded.

True, but as bhamv pointed out, it does force you to interact with different cultures.

And in no way am I saying that China isn't diverse. I know there are a multitude of ethnicities and languages living all throughout China, but it's obvious that the OP (or at the very least her parents) come from a more 'traditional' and closed off portion.

Mar 24, 2014#83

Jay

LittleKagsin said:
If it helps, men really do it for me (maybe I'm on oddity). They really really do.

Mar 24, 2014#84

WasabiPoptart

Ravenpoe said:
I'd be curious to know how long she's been living in Canada.

I was thinking about that, too.

Mar 24, 2014#85

LittleKagsin

Jay said:
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Mar 24, 2014#86

Ravenpoe

LittleKagsin said:

... I need some time alone with this gif...

Mar 24, 2014#87

Jay

LittleKagsin said:

Mar 24, 2014#88

LittleKagsin

Ravenpoe said:
... I need some time alone with this gif...

I don't know why I'm telling you this, but..It's Miranda Kerr, she's adorable. And a Victoria Secret Angel. She's well known for winking during interviews. I don't know why I know all of this.

Mar 24, 2014#89

Ravenpoe

LittleKagsin said:
I don't know why I'm telling you this, but..It's Miranda Kerr, she's adorable. And a Victoria Secret Angel. She's well known for winking during interviews. I don't know why I know all of this.

I don't even want to see her in lingerie. I just want to see her continue to wink... that's a great wink.

Mar 24, 2014#90

LittleKagsin

Ravenpoe said:
I don't even want to see her in lingerie. I just want to see her continue to wink... that's a great wink.

Right??! I'm sure that's why she does it a lot. It's kind of perfect.

Mar 25, 2014#91

Espy

People can date/marry whomever they want, I certainly don't care. However, if you marry someone from a different culture (and even if you don't!) get your mother freaking pre-marriage counseling going on. Cultural differences can cause a LOT of stress in a relationship. Way more than people expect.

Mar 25, 2014#92

Ravenpoe

Espy said:
People can date/marry whomever they want, I certainly don't care. However, if you marry someone from a different culture (and even if you don't!) get your mother freaking pre-marriage counseling going on. Cultural differences can cause a LOT of stress in a relationship. Way more than people expect.

Hey man, it's not my fault she never asked if I was polygamous.

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