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I just want to say that this hasn't been the first time that Calleja's come onto the forum and seemed like he was whining about really minor shit. This week in particular it seemed like he's been doing it a lot and I felt like somebody needed to call him on it.

From the great deal of reputation I've received from my previous post, it seems like a lot of other people feel the same way.
 

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Morphine gave me the kitty gift to tease me playfully cause she knew I needed the laugh. I was playing along. That's all this thread was. You people turned that into something that actually pissed me off.

That's my cue to take a break from the forums. An extended one.
For my part, Calleja, I was just joking. As I believe most people are in this thread.

If you think you need a break from us, take it. I for one, though, sincerely hope that it won't be an extended one. Call me strange, but I always get a smile on my lips when I hear about your last zany adventure. Hell, I'm not the most sociable of people, but I'd buy you a beer right away. I think this forum would be a poorer place without you.

Take care, ystävä...
 
This week in particular it seemed like he's been doing it a lot and I felt like somebody needed to call him on it.
Yeah, I guess the imminent death of his grandmother may have nothing to do with this increase...[/QUOTE]
That doesn't fly with my as an excuse for his behavior. Do you want to know why? When I was 5 years old my paternal grandfather died of congestive heart failure. When I was 14 my mother was killed in a car accident. A year or two after that, my maternal great-grandmother died of pancreatic cancer that metastasized literally everywhere. When I was 18 my paternal grandmother died of complications of a bladder infection and, quite frankly, also being old. Last February my uncle blew his brains out in the parking lot of a hospital, leaving behind an invalid wife and two, thankfully grown, sons. The only one I actually got to say goodbye to was my grandmother and by that time she was barely cognizant anyway.

Everybody has their issues. Everybody has had family members die. Some people have had many more family members die than others. I've had to deal with a lot of death and other serious issues in my family and not once have I used that as an excuse for my behavior. NOT. ONCE. I will admit that I at times get sensitive, especially regarding my mom, but I do not go around acting like a prat and then blame it on the fact that I had a family member die. I absolutely hate when people do that. It's a pathetic, juvenile excuse. Calleja playing the "my grandma is dying" card did more to undermine his masculinity than any number of gift kittens would.

Grieving with family and friends is essential and at no point in this post do I mean to imply otherwise. For me the biggest part of dealing with grief is just having people to talk to about it. For Calleja it may be different but I hope he finds something. However, once you grieve you put your shoulder back to the wheel and you continue to press forward. A true man owns up to his actions. He takes responsibility for how he acts, for what he does, and he soldiers on.
 
Oh my gosh people. Even I could tell he was being a little silly and trying to take his mind off things.

Geeze. :/

This thread is done, we don't need a "pile on" anyone thread, especially when they are dealing with loss.
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