You might remember me talking about a friend who asked me out after the break-up. This isn't about the dating relationship because we decided a while ago to not do any formal dating for now.
We'd been in touch fairly regularly, then things changed in early February. She texted me and said her apartment had flooded with sewer water again and then her phone died. I did what I'd do for any friend in that situation and went over to help. She wasn't in because she needed to get away from the stink. I told her about that a few days later and she said that my dropping what I was doing for her made her feel weird. I let it rest and things settled down. We hung out again a couple weeks later and it seemed like normal again, except for the fact that she's working 75-hour weeks.
Then I stopped hearing back from her. I knew she was busy so I didn't pay it any mind. Apparently it's not just me either; we're on a conference committee and the professor's been trying to reach her. We have other mutual friends who have asked me about her because they haven't been able to get in touch with her either. Normally I'd write her off as a friend who's just flaking out, but this has professional implications. I had vouched for her and when she blows off a professor's email it reflects poorly on me as a professional.
She has also apparently been dropping by my place unannounced. I know this because she left a note on my door. Not a "Dear John" letter or anything of that nature, just a regular note.
I also had some items I'd borrowed from her, so I tried calling to return them. Her phone was off, so I stopped by her apartment to drop them off. She wasn't in, but I saw that she had been in a car accident. Her car isn't totaled, but the passenger side door is smashed in like she was t-boned. I just hope she's all right.
Any idea on what I should do?
We'd been in touch fairly regularly, then things changed in early February. She texted me and said her apartment had flooded with sewer water again and then her phone died. I did what I'd do for any friend in that situation and went over to help. She wasn't in because she needed to get away from the stink. I told her about that a few days later and she said that my dropping what I was doing for her made her feel weird. I let it rest and things settled down. We hung out again a couple weeks later and it seemed like normal again, except for the fact that she's working 75-hour weeks.
Then I stopped hearing back from her. I knew she was busy so I didn't pay it any mind. Apparently it's not just me either; we're on a conference committee and the professor's been trying to reach her. We have other mutual friends who have asked me about her because they haven't been able to get in touch with her either. Normally I'd write her off as a friend who's just flaking out, but this has professional implications. I had vouched for her and when she blows off a professor's email it reflects poorly on me as a professional.
She has also apparently been dropping by my place unannounced. I know this because she left a note on my door. Not a "Dear John" letter or anything of that nature, just a regular note.
I also had some items I'd borrowed from her, so I tried calling to return them. Her phone was off, so I stopped by her apartment to drop them off. She wasn't in, but I saw that she had been in a car accident. Her car isn't totaled, but the passenger side door is smashed in like she was t-boned. I just hope she's all right.
Any idea on what I should do?
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