Rant VII: Now With 25% Less Drama

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North_Ranger

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*sighs*

Girlfriend had a bad day today, and she came over tonight because she couldn't stand some relatives. I'm not going to tell anything more about that, but I'm afraid what this means to a friendship of mine. I have this online gaming buddy, we've been playing for the better part of a decade, but lately she's been getting pissed off at me because I've had to cut back on gaming time due to work and friends. We were supposed to play today, and half an hour before our meeting my girlfriend comes here. Naturally she takes precedence, so I contact my friend and tell her there's a small emergency and that I can't come online today. I know this young lady, and I fear she'll be mightily pissed off at me now.

Oh, and the girlfriend's fine now. She just needed a shoulder to lean on for a while.
 
It's a weird thing with friends of the same gender as your significant other, because while they know in their heads they're friends, there's still a temptation to get aggravated about being put in second by the significant other. I've had a situation where my best friend (a girl) would be annoyed with me for a week or so because I had to put off talking to her or even visiting due to something coming up involving my fiancee.

That said, a real friend--however frustrated--will understand and know that they have done or will do the same thing in return when it comes to her significant other.

Ignore the gender thing in cases of bromance though.
 
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Matt²

RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR... hulk SMASH!!!!!!!........former friend tweeting lies and misperceptions about me. Why should I care, but I do. GRRRRRRRRRRRR. Also claims he was "at risk youth" when he was a teenager, when he was white collar youth! LIAR!!!!!!!!! PANTS ON FIRE!! (and what huge pants they are!)
 
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Chazwozel

Seriously, every fucking car I look it is automatic transmission. I want a pickup truck, but every goddamn truck I look it is automatic. Fuck all you lazy ass, horrible drivers who can't drive a goddamn stick!
 

North_Ranger

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Seriously, every fucking car I look it is automatic transmission. I want a pickup truck, but every goddamn truck I look it is automatic. Fuck all you lazy ass, horrible drivers who can't drive a goddamn stick!
Most of Europe uses stick shift. You'd like it here :p
 

Cajungal

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I miss that as well, Chaz. Dad made all of us learn. I'm gonna get a newer used car pretty soon, and I'd love to go back to driving stick if I could.
 
Why are there always morons who act like superman when they have ten beers in them? Seriously, if you act like a cockmonger when you're drunk, maybe it's a good idea you don't drink at all!
 

Cajungal

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Agreed, Idiot. The big thing that keeps me away from parties and bars is all the bullshitting that comes from drinking too much. I get so sick of hearing it, and I end up having a lousy time. That way everyone is happy. I'm not there to be a wet blanket, and they can jump off a roof after boasting about their strength.
 
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makare

I discovered a new drunk person I can't stand. I actually went out and had some drinks with friends the other night and encountered Drunk-Chick-Who-Talks-Way-Too-Loud-On-Her-Cellphone that chick would NOT shut up. She was sitting at a table a ways away from us and we could hear everything she said, nothing interesting of course. I wanted to smack her but then she would have just fallen over and kept talking.
 
I can tolerate it at bars and parties as long as I'm not being with it personally. But I was at a friends house doing my laundry, and his mother asks me to watch over the place as she decided to have "girls night out" with her friends. Her BF comes homes all drunk and raging, yelling, insulting, and swearing at her because she didn't want to out with him that night, then his drunken ire turns to me. So she drives me back home in a hurry, obviously very upset about the whole affair. I cannot understand why she would put up with that.
 
*sigh*

So, the wife is off to the big city for work for 4 days. For those of you who know our situation, this is causing me no end of emotional stress.

It's around the anniversary of D-day when my trust was first shattered and she's going back to the same city where the problem became physical. It's been a long year, full of ups and downs. We've had many, many, many hours of counselling and she has made huge changes in her self and committed herself totally and fully to our relationship. She's grown more confident and mature, communicates more and has cut herself off from the online community which she used to run to.

Still, it's a brutal reminder of what happened. I know she has to go - she's been putting it off for months knowing that it's going to cause me pain. She's changed the entire environment in which she's going to. Staying with a female friend, taking the bus and not driving down independently, not taking her laptop, etc.

I intellectually 'trust' nothing to happen. Emotionally it's a different story. I don't feel panicky, I feel anxious, self-aware, introspective. I feel the need to lose myself in distractions for the next couple days just to stay sane.

To those spouses who are or are considering being unfaithful. FUCK YOU. Your six seconds of fun lasts years of pain.
 
So, I have this wisdom tooth, which for a long ass time, had a piece of popcorn kernel skin in front of it. I tried everything to get rid of that damn kernel - brushing, flossing (didn't really work, it was in front of the tooth embedded in the gum), tooth picks, floss picks, fingernails, everything. Finally, I managed to get the kernel out of my gums, and low-and-behold, there's a cavity in the face of the tooth. Which reaches back to the surface of the tooth. Nice little hole that reaches from the surface of the tooth, to the front of the tooth. Food can pass through the hole - and frequently did, until the little bit of tooth surrounding the hole finally broke off. That was about, oh, a year ago, little more. No dental insurance, tooth extractions are incredibly expensive, and it's been hard as hell to find a decent dentist in the greater Seattle metroplex. I could go back to the guy that botched my root canal, or I could go to one of the myriad of dentists that friends, family members, and family members of my fiance have told me to avoid at all costs. Now however, the pain has overcome my ability to, well, overcome it. Excedrin, Tylenol, nothing. Almost to the point of taking some left over Vicodin. This tooth must come out of my face.

Update - Vicodin taken. Spinny has begun, when does the lack of pain and/or caring about the pain begin? Fuck. FUCK!!!!
 

North_Ranger

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*sighs*

The girlfriend chewed my ear off, and not in the good way. Basically she had been pissed about something for days, and suddenly she just couldn't keep it in anymore. She told me she hates it everytime I do certain things, how I say I try to change but then apparently don't put enough effort into it. How she's angry at me for what she considers lack of trying...

The thing is, she's right. I want to change. But it's not so easy, once you've fallen into that rut for most of your life. It didn't help that I had done some of those things in order to be a good host, and not brought up one of her suggestions of doing something together because I had thought her too tired and stressed out these days. Goddammit, I wanted to tell her how much it pained me to hear her say those things, the same things I've been hearing ad nauseam from just about everybody. But I couldn't bring myself to yell at her; she means well, and I was in a bit of a shock, seeing how we had met earlier today and she had said nothing about these things. Guess I suck at empathy or catching subtle hints...

*deep sigh*
 
Don't yell, but tell her how it makes you feel. It may not help your relationship, but it will help you. Keep you calm no matter how heated a conversation gets.
 
Roommate and his gf are going out of town this weekend, so I'll be home alone yet again for Saturday/Sunday. My weekend plans will involve large bottles of unfiltered sake and a lot of movies.

I lead a charmed life, truly.
 

Cajungal

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My unsolicited advice depends on what these unwanted activities might be.
Pretty much what he said. Some things you'll be able to change and will be a better person for it. Other things won't change. To some degree, people are what they are. The trick's knowing what to filter out as good advice among all the griping. (Frankly women get away with this stuff notoriously well when they're just as flawed as their men.) Hope things get resolved soon, though. I know how frustrating it is to be nagged about something that you beat yourself up about all the time anyway.

CK--do you like Summer Snow?
 
I've sadly not tried a lot of different kinds of sake yet, I just recently started buying it at home. Don't have the last bottle so I can't see what brand I've been buying. D:
 

Cajungal

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I don't know if it's a "good" kind or not... but I've ordered it a couple of times when I go out for sushi, and I brought it on a convention trip once, too. It's very nice unfiltered sake, to my untrained taste buds at least. ;P I'd recommend it.
 
So, I have this wisdom tooth, which for a long ass time, had a piece of popcorn kernel skin in front of it. I tried everything to get rid of that damn kernel - brushing, flossing (didn't really work, it was in front of the tooth embedded in the gum), tooth picks, floss picks, fingernails, everything. Finally, I managed to get the kernel out of my gums, and low-and-behold, there's a cavity in the face of the tooth. Which reaches back to the surface of the tooth. Nice little hole that reaches from the surface of the tooth, to the front of the tooth. Food can pass through the hole - and frequently did, until the little bit of tooth surrounding the hole finally broke off. That was about, oh, a year ago, little more. No dental insurance, tooth extractions are incredibly expensive, and it's been hard as hell to find a decent dentist in the greater Seattle metroplex. I could go back to the guy that botched my root canal, or I could go to one of the myriad of dentists that friends, family members, and family members of my fiance have told me to avoid at all costs. Now however, the pain has overcome my ability to, well, overcome it. Excedrin, Tylenol, nothing. Almost to the point of taking some left over Vicodin. This tooth must come out of my face.

Update - Vicodin taken. Spinny has begun, when does the lack of pain and/or caring about the pain begin? Fuck. FUCK!!!!
Pretty much the same, except it was two years ago, and mine only hurts occasionally. Doesn't seem infected. I'm leaving it be for now.
 
I don't know if it's a "good" kind or not... but I've ordered it a couple of times when I go out for sushi, and I brought it on a convention trip once, too. It's very nice unfiltered sake, to my untrained taste buds at least. ;P I'd recommend it.
It's funny, 'cause you think "unfiltered" and you think 'oh nasty it's gonna have grain and crap in it' not 'oh man this is delicious and I'm getting toasted.'
 

Cajungal

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I don't know if it's a "good" kind or not... but I've ordered it a couple of times when I go out for sushi, and I brought it on a convention trip once, too. It's very nice unfiltered sake, to my untrained taste buds at least. ;P I'd recommend it.
It's funny, 'cause you think "unfiltered" and you think 'oh nasty it's gonna have grain and crap in it' not 'oh man this is delicious and I'm getting toasted.'[/QUOTE]

I had my reservations, but my dad ordered it, and he usually orders good alcohol. ^_^
 
There are two types of "unfiltered" sake. Muroka, which means 'unfiltered', which means sake that hasn't been carbon filtered, but has been pressed and separated from the lees and so is clear, not cloudy. It has a strong flavor comparatively due to that lack of carbon filtering. Nigori is cloudy, having only been passed through a loose mesh to separate it from the mash, and not filtered further. Nigori has a lot of rice sediment in it, so shake the bottle first to mix it up.

There's also doburoku, which is basically rice moonshine, and legally not sake at all. It's described as being a "chunky" variety of nigori.
 
My mom told me today that my doxin is having issues moving lately. My dad had to build him a ramp so he could get in and out of the dog door.

She told me 10 minutes ago, and I'm already crying. I don't know if I can handle losing him without being there.
 
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makare

I was very confused by doxin initially but now i understand.

That's really sad. I know someday we are going to have to accommodate our pitbull/german shepherds hip dysplasia and i get sad just thinking about it.
 
I was very confused by doxin initially but now i understand.

That's really sad. I know someday we are going to have to accommodate our pitbull/german shepherds hip dysplasia and i get sad just thinking about it.
Hip displacia (sp?) is what led to my doberman being put down last Easter. I'm really not doing well right now.
 
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