Dear Dave or Jay,
So I've started to date this girl. We started off on eHarmony and talked with each other for a few weeks. Then we had our first date last weekend and she's already planning on coming down to College Station for a weekend (she lives in Waco). We communicate on a daily, reciprocal basis and we're both comfortable with it.
There is no problem with the dating relationship. She's really cool and I'm starting to like her. She's also dropping hints about "things to come" and saying she's excited to see me again. But there is a bit of a situation because I am returning to Qatar at the end of the month. My flight leaves on August 31 and I won't be back until early December. I have a non-teaching position so I won't have to stick around for finals, which means I can leave a couple weeks early. The contract ends in December so when I leave Qatar I'll be leaving for good.
Honestly, I didn't mention it to her because I didn't think it would matter at first. It also isn't something you typically say upon meeting someone. I originally didn't expect this relationship to even start because EVERY other girl I've dated this summer has brushed me off or given me the cold shoulder after the first date. But this girl is saying that she wants to go to Midnight Yell with me. For the non-Aggies here, Midnight Yell is held at Kyle Field the night before every Texas A&M home game. The Yell Leaders lead everyone in the traditional school cheers and the Aggie War Hymn. Towards the end, the stadium lights dim and you make out with your date. She wanted to buy the two of us tickets for First Yell next month (the first Midnight Yell of the season) and that's a huge event. I told her to hold off on that because I'll be out of town that night, which is true enough.
I was thinking about waiting until the third or fourth date, if it lasts that long, then telling her as gently as possible when she's in the best mood possible. If she wants the relationship to continue, I'll offer to fly her to Qatar for a week or so in the middle of the semester. That way we'll have two relatively short 6-week breaks instead of an entire semester without seeing each other. Plus she said she wants to travel.
So what do you think is the best way to break the news to her? I really want to tell her, especially if the relationship progresses, but I'm not sure when the best time would be.
So I've started to date this girl. We started off on eHarmony and talked with each other for a few weeks. Then we had our first date last weekend and she's already planning on coming down to College Station for a weekend (she lives in Waco). We communicate on a daily, reciprocal basis and we're both comfortable with it.
There is no problem with the dating relationship. She's really cool and I'm starting to like her. She's also dropping hints about "things to come" and saying she's excited to see me again. But there is a bit of a situation because I am returning to Qatar at the end of the month. My flight leaves on August 31 and I won't be back until early December. I have a non-teaching position so I won't have to stick around for finals, which means I can leave a couple weeks early. The contract ends in December so when I leave Qatar I'll be leaving for good.
Honestly, I didn't mention it to her because I didn't think it would matter at first. It also isn't something you typically say upon meeting someone. I originally didn't expect this relationship to even start because EVERY other girl I've dated this summer has brushed me off or given me the cold shoulder after the first date. But this girl is saying that she wants to go to Midnight Yell with me. For the non-Aggies here, Midnight Yell is held at Kyle Field the night before every Texas A&M home game. The Yell Leaders lead everyone in the traditional school cheers and the Aggie War Hymn. Towards the end, the stadium lights dim and you make out with your date. She wanted to buy the two of us tickets for First Yell next month (the first Midnight Yell of the season) and that's a huge event. I told her to hold off on that because I'll be out of town that night, which is true enough.
I was thinking about waiting until the third or fourth date, if it lasts that long, then telling her as gently as possible when she's in the best mood possible. If she wants the relationship to continue, I'll offer to fly her to Qatar for a week or so in the middle of the semester. That way we'll have two relatively short 6-week breaks instead of an entire semester without seeing each other. Plus she said she wants to travel.
So what do you think is the best way to break the news to her? I really want to tell her, especially if the relationship progresses, but I'm not sure when the best time would be.
