So I'm in a predicament I've never been in before.
Recently, I've been feeling a lot better. I'm working, I'm doing a metric fuckton of writing (halfway through Dill #3 and about 2/3's of the way through a YA novel), and I think the new medications my psychiatrist prescribed me are doing a damn good job.
As a result, I decided to dip my toe back into the dating waters. I re-opened my OkCupid account and installed both Tinder and Bumble (a recent Tinder-like app). Not really using any of them very much, I more or less used them casually. I let my OkCupid idle and let the girls message me, though none did. And I flipped right and left for some girls.
Except, something interesting happened. I've been talking with two different girls. Nothing serious, just small talk and joking. I went for a date with one on Saturday and had a pretty good time. We're discussing a second date, but nothing concrete yet. The other girl's open to a first date.
Then today, I started chatting with a girl I matched with on Bumble. And I'm going for a coffee date with her later tonight.
This is all new territory for me. I'm usually a very serial, monogamous dater, even if we're not exclusive. I tend to put all eggs into one basket at a time, whether it works out or not. But carrying on essentially three different conversations with potential mates? I won't lie, I feel a little like a player. Though I suppose I'd be a true player if I was sleeping with all of them at a time. Which definitely won't happen because I don't jump into bed unless there's at least some emotional feelings attached.
Anyway, is this a bad thing? A friend of mine says she doesn't think I should go on different dates with different people. I really don't know. As I said, this is all uncharted territory for me.
Recently, I've been feeling a lot better. I'm working, I'm doing a metric fuckton of writing (halfway through Dill #3 and about 2/3's of the way through a YA novel), and I think the new medications my psychiatrist prescribed me are doing a damn good job.
As a result, I decided to dip my toe back into the dating waters. I re-opened my OkCupid account and installed both Tinder and Bumble (a recent Tinder-like app). Not really using any of them very much, I more or less used them casually. I let my OkCupid idle and let the girls message me, though none did. And I flipped right and left for some girls.
Except, something interesting happened. I've been talking with two different girls. Nothing serious, just small talk and joking. I went for a date with one on Saturday and had a pretty good time. We're discussing a second date, but nothing concrete yet. The other girl's open to a first date.
Then today, I started chatting with a girl I matched with on Bumble. And I'm going for a coffee date with her later tonight.
This is all new territory for me. I'm usually a very serial, monogamous dater, even if we're not exclusive. I tend to put all eggs into one basket at a time, whether it works out or not. But carrying on essentially three different conversations with potential mates? I won't lie, I feel a little like a player. Though I suppose I'd be a true player if I was sleeping with all of them at a time. Which definitely won't happen because I don't jump into bed unless there's at least some emotional feelings attached.
Anyway, is this a bad thing? A friend of mine says she doesn't think I should go on different dates with different people. I really don't know. As I said, this is all uncharted territory for me.
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