I am just so angry right now, I don't know whether to scream or cry.
The Z family is going to be traveling to Taiwan at the end of April. (Hey, @bhamv3, how you doin'?). It's Mr. Z's grandmother's 80th birthday, so we've known attendance is mandatory for quite some time. Also, she's never met her only great-grandchild. That being the case, I asked my mother back in December/January if she could watch our dog. For the entirety we had him, she's watched him if we've ever had to go away. She loves having him around and he's always been an easy dog to care for. (He's very mellow and go-with-the-flow.) Plus, she only lives about 25 minutes from us.
Tonight, she and her husband (not my dad, obv, they just married last summer) stop by for an early Easter dinner, and while preparing said dinner, she drops the bomb on us that she scheduled her belated honeymoon that same week. Not because it was the only time they could go, it's just that she forgot. Even though I've reminded her of our trip several times since January. Did I mention, while my mother is a lovely and generous woman, she has also been known to be an airhead sometimes?
This is not a small issue. We don't know of anyone less than an hour and 1/2 away that could maybe watch him, due to allergies/not having a place that allows pets, having another pet/s already, can't drive or stay at our house/lives close enough to drop in and walk him. Not to mention the kennels around here aren't cheap, and know a woman who's dog died in the "care" of one of them, so that's out of the question. Mr. Z and I are desperately scanning our friends list trying to think of someone who'd be able, when my mother walks in and asks, "So, what's new with you?" which I curtly replied, "Having to find some to watch Tofu!" and gave her the cold shoulder. Did I also mention I started potty training Li'l Z this weekend? Needless to say, I'm already stretched thin and my patience is low. I also rarely fight with my mom, so rather than scream and rant at her, I'm seething in the other room, trying to focus on getting Li'l Z to potty. Mind you, my mother is well aware she screwed up, so she is not pushing me or trying to defend her position.
So Mr. Z goes into the kitchen while we're trying to get Li'l Z fed in the other room, when mom's husband decides to chew Mr. Z out, telling him "people make mistakes" and "stop acting so childish". This, from a man who is NOTORIOUS for throwing temper tantrums, like storming out of a car at a traffic light, when he doesn't get his way, to the point where they were engaged for 3 years because my mother wasn't sure she wanted to put up with them. In fact, pretty much every holiday for the past few years he's guilted my mother and tried to keep her from coming over because my dad is there. (They get along, despite being exes, and my dad has always been nice to him. There's zero jealousy from my dad, and frankly, they have one kid and grand kid.) I couldn't hear what was said, but he goes off on Mr.Z and storms out. Mr. Z, clearly furious, turn to my mom and says, very calmly, "Mom, I love you very much, but I think it would be a good idea if you guys went home now." My mother, to her credit (and knowing her husbands tantrums), very calmly said she understood, kissed us goodbye and left without a fuss. Mr. Z then filled me in on what was said in the kitchen and I actually got up and stormed out to the car to chew him out, but they had already pulled out of the driveway and I wasn't going to make a scene. And then Li'l Z had an accident to literally put the crap cherry on my shit sundae.
TL, DR: family does stupid things sometimes. Mr. Z has fixed me a drink and I'm a lot calmer now, though still pissed at the whole evening. Also, I don't like fighting with my mother, so I just sent her an email saying while news of her mistake couldn't have worse timing, I love her and thanked her for dinner.
The Z family is going to be traveling to Taiwan at the end of April. (Hey, @bhamv3, how you doin'?). It's Mr. Z's grandmother's 80th birthday, so we've known attendance is mandatory for quite some time. Also, she's never met her only great-grandchild. That being the case, I asked my mother back in December/January if she could watch our dog. For the entirety we had him, she's watched him if we've ever had to go away. She loves having him around and he's always been an easy dog to care for. (He's very mellow and go-with-the-flow.) Plus, she only lives about 25 minutes from us.
Tonight, she and her husband (not my dad, obv, they just married last summer) stop by for an early Easter dinner, and while preparing said dinner, she drops the bomb on us that she scheduled her belated honeymoon that same week. Not because it was the only time they could go, it's just that she forgot. Even though I've reminded her of our trip several times since January. Did I mention, while my mother is a lovely and generous woman, she has also been known to be an airhead sometimes?
This is not a small issue. We don't know of anyone less than an hour and 1/2 away that could maybe watch him, due to allergies/not having a place that allows pets, having another pet/s already, can't drive or stay at our house/lives close enough to drop in and walk him. Not to mention the kennels around here aren't cheap, and know a woman who's dog died in the "care" of one of them, so that's out of the question. Mr. Z and I are desperately scanning our friends list trying to think of someone who'd be able, when my mother walks in and asks, "So, what's new with you?" which I curtly replied, "Having to find some to watch Tofu!" and gave her the cold shoulder. Did I also mention I started potty training Li'l Z this weekend? Needless to say, I'm already stretched thin and my patience is low. I also rarely fight with my mom, so rather than scream and rant at her, I'm seething in the other room, trying to focus on getting Li'l Z to potty. Mind you, my mother is well aware she screwed up, so she is not pushing me or trying to defend her position.
So Mr. Z goes into the kitchen while we're trying to get Li'l Z fed in the other room, when mom's husband decides to chew Mr. Z out, telling him "people make mistakes" and "stop acting so childish". This, from a man who is NOTORIOUS for throwing temper tantrums, like storming out of a car at a traffic light, when he doesn't get his way, to the point where they were engaged for 3 years because my mother wasn't sure she wanted to put up with them. In fact, pretty much every holiday for the past few years he's guilted my mother and tried to keep her from coming over because my dad is there. (They get along, despite being exes, and my dad has always been nice to him. There's zero jealousy from my dad, and frankly, they have one kid and grand kid.) I couldn't hear what was said, but he goes off on Mr.Z and storms out. Mr. Z, clearly furious, turn to my mom and says, very calmly, "Mom, I love you very much, but I think it would be a good idea if you guys went home now." My mother, to her credit (and knowing her husbands tantrums), very calmly said she understood, kissed us goodbye and left without a fuss. Mr. Z then filled me in on what was said in the kitchen and I actually got up and stormed out to the car to chew him out, but they had already pulled out of the driveway and I wasn't going to make a scene. And then Li'l Z had an accident to literally put the crap cherry on my shit sundae.
TL, DR: family does stupid things sometimes. Mr. Z has fixed me a drink and I'm a lot calmer now, though still pissed at the whole evening. Also, I don't like fighting with my mother, so I just sent her an email saying while news of her mistake couldn't have worse timing, I love her and thanked her for dinner.
I hope you can find another dogsitter soon.
