[Rant] Minor Rant III: For a Few Hollers More

A server went down today

A big, important server.

The one that runs the main cloud app that differentiates our product from every other stupid product in this market.

Why did it go down?

The previous developer, who left months ago, chose to put it on a free hosting sandbox service.

That was discontinued.

Today.

I was able to recover within a few hours of finding out, but really? You put your BIG IMPORTANT THING on a free, no guarantees service?

Really?

Startups.

Sigh.
Was it hosted on Geocities?
 
Following the big fight we had regarding her delving into the unnecessary past, she has concluded that only I was out of line for that entire situation. I admit I blew up over her calling me a liar, but she insists that she was not mad when she did so and I could have just explained what I meant by "pseudo-engaged" better. This upset me, because I still do feel she has completely avoided the fact that she was insecure enough to go through my trash email to read a letter from a girl who has not been informed that I am not available. Mostly because I know if I DO inform her, that will mean replying to her which my wife will not appreciate. Apparently I'm a horrible person when I tell girls I'm not available, because I tend to add things like "I'm sure you're a wonderful person and I wish you the best of luck."
The matter of free-time was brought up and she insists I have more than I want. Apparently I'm on my phone a lot in her opinion, which I guess means that I'm going to have to put the phone down and focus on something else such as housework to get her to agree that it's okay for me to play some Xbox on occasion. The thought has occurred to me to ask "Does it bother you when I take free-time. Because if it does, and you're not telling me, then there's something amiss here."
Cause there really is something amiss. I don't understand why it's so difficult for me to just sit back and play Xbox on occasion. I guess I have to wait for her to be preoccupied with something, such as her massive sewing project, but usually she does that stuff when I'm asleep.
I dunno. Maybe she feels like you are taking all this responsibility free play time while she is in constant parenting mode. That you see home responsibilities as favors to her, rather than something you just do. It's a very common trap to fall into (like when guys say they are "baby sitting" their own children). The jealousy thing is worrying. The going through your things part is really worrying. You two are one and all that but some amount of individual space must be respected. One thing that is important is that you do fun things together, your interactions shouldn't just be all dull everyday chores with all the fun stuff happening while you're separate. That sort of thing breeds alienation.
 
I dunno. Maybe she feels like you are taking all this responsibility free play time while she is in constant parenting mode. That you see home responsibilities as favors to her, rather than something you just do. It's a very common trap to fall into (like when guys say they are "baby sitting" their own children). The jealousy thing is worrying. The going through your things part is really worrying. You two are one and all that but some amount of individual space must be respected. One thing that is important is that you do fun things together, your interactions shouldn't just be all dull everyday chores with all the fun stuff happening while you're separate. That sort of thing breeds alienation.
He's clearly stated that they play video games together, so that's obviously not an issue here.
 
When we do things together my wife and I like to watch television shows that we have equal interest in (Supernatural, Fringe, Doctor Who, Arrow, etc). We like to go on walks with our baby daughter, or with the entire family when the kids are home from school. We like to take everyone to the aquarium. Sarah and I used to go down to Dave and Busters on half priced Wednesdays (which was how we got our Xbox). With the baby we can't do many of the things we used to do, but we still manage. We do have a lot of chores to keep up around the house. And I understand why she might feel I don't pull my weight. I do attempt to, and I think I do a good job keeping up with what I can. But I work and sleep at odd hours. Plus, again Sarah has very strong parenting urges that make her uneasy when we are both not spending as much time with the kids as possible. So when the kids go to swimming lessons, or are being picked up from their biological father's, etc, she feels we both need to be in attendance. Instead of one person doing it, and the other person focusing on other matters such as cleaning up the house or doing laundry. And honestly if we were able to do that I'd be happy with either job. I can pick up the kids OR I can stay at home and clean. I'm flexible.
Our current schedule mostly gives us time together. Which is fine. I like that. I've never needed a lot of time to play games. And I am getting used to not playing nearly as much as I once did when I was single. It can still be frustrating at times when I really like a game I'm invested in, but I know that it won't be going anywhere. Mostly I just need to know that I can look forward to it as some point in the near future. For us it's every other evening for a few hours before work, but the schedule is tentative so it can change if necessary. I'm hopeful it will work out. I just didn't like the feeling where I didn't know if it would be a several days, to a week before I had a chance to unwind with the Xbox again.
 

Dave

Staff member
It gets better. Trust me. I used to not have time to play anything and now I have my space. Or she's tired of me. Whichever.

My minor bitch:

I have had a persistent headache now for 2 straight days. No, I don't know why. I've had caffeine, I went to bed early last night and I'm not stressing overmuch on anything. But that's not my bitch. My bitch is that I'm taking my son to go see Ironman 3 today and it sucks that I have this headache as it'll probably color my perception of the movie somewhat. Probably for the negative.

But I promised him we'd go today.
 
It gets better. Trust me. I used to not have time to play anything and now I have my space. Or she's tired of me. Whichever.

My minor bitch:

I have had a persistent headache now for 2 straight days. No, I don't know why. I've had caffeine, I went to bed early last night and I'm not stressing overmuch on anything. But that's not my bitch. My bitch is that I'm taking my son to go see Ironman 3 today and it sucks that I have this headache as it'll probably color my perception of the movie somewhat. Probably for the negative.

But I promised him we'd go today.
Take a hot shower, massage your temples, and take some allergy stuff if you have them. It's that time of year and my head has been splitting the past few days too.
 

Dave

Staff member
The brofist is for following through.
I have never - EVER - broken a promise to my kids. If I promise them something I always follow through. There have been times where a promise was stretched because of things out of my control and they understand that. Examples of this would be I promised my daughter she could go to a concert and then the lead singer went into rehab and cancelled. But a promise I made? They can count on it.

Of course, they know this and always try and make me promise for everything, but I seldom do.
 
That's funny. I'm the same way. My daughter learned early on not to say "you promised", because if I had promised, we wouldn't still be discussing it.
 
It gets better. Trust me. I used to not have time to play anything and now I have my space. Or she's tired of me. Whichever.

My minor bitch:

I have had a persistent headache now for 2 straight days. No, I don't know why. I've had caffeine, I went to bed early last night and I'm not stressing overmuch on anything. But that's not my bitch. My bitch is that I'm taking my son to go see Ironman 3 today and it sucks that I have this headache as it'll probably color my perception of the movie somewhat. Probably for the negative.

But I promised him we'd go today.
Dehydration?
 
So, I sold my car in January. I went to the DMV myself to hand in my paper work.

It is months later and I just received, like, five notices of conviction and fiine for that bloody car from March. It's a few hundred bucks work of fines! What the hell do I do?!!
 
You still have your paperwork? Should exonerate you of any wrongdoing.
I have nothing! ;_; I have my receipt of sale but I can't read the guys name on it.

I don't know what to do. All I did was fill out the blue paper, bring it in, they took it and they said "Alright, that'll be done."

Fuck, fuck, fuck.
 
After some seriously rapid tooth decay (two new cavities in the past 6 months since I've had the last ones filled) I'm starting to think I'm going to have to put a serious watch on my sugar consumption levels. Like, permanently :(
 
After some seriously rapid tooth decay (two new cavities in the past 6 months since I've had the last ones filled) I'm starting to think I'm going to have to put a serious watch on my sugar consumption levels. Like, permanently :(
If you drink soda, limit it to once a week and I assure you that you will see an amazing decline in tooth decay. I used to get cavities all the time and now I hardly ever do anymore. Too bad it took 4 pulled/extracted teeth to learn that lesson.
 
Also, it's not so much as how much sugar/starch you eat, it's how long that carbohydrate stays in your mouth that makes the difference. Even if you don't brush/floss after every meal, at least rinsing your mouth out with water will go a long ways.

--Patrick
 
Work internet went down at about 5:30 this morning. Cycled power on all the relevant networking equipment. Nothing. Called first set of support people (they handle everything from the gateway to the PC). It's not them. I mention the "Internet" light on the DSL (yeah, I know...) modem is out. It's probably them. After ~20 minutes on hold with the DSL support, internet comes back the INSTANT the tech picks up. And then goes away the moment I hang up the phone. I call back. May be a cut fiber line somewhere. Hotel down the hill from me is also down.

Minor rant because thanks to a prepaid hotspot and a laptop, I am able to run the property just fine... except for printing receipts. Certain Dell printers don't play well with Linux. We have one of those certain Dell printers. :p
 
This issue with my car is moving into all out Rant territory. I can't find my paper work for selling the bloody outside of my hand written receipt...and I handed over the info I had on the guy when I supposedly took this car out of my name. Motor vehicle is telling me it's not their problem and I don't know how to track this fucker down.

I'm just...the car shouldn't even be registered to me. It hadn't been registered for nearly a year before I sold it. I don't know what too do!
 
To be honest, if you just do the court dates of your tickets and explain yourself, 99% chance it gets thrown out. It takes almost nothing to get a ticket dismissed in court.
 
To be honest, if you just do the court dates of your tickets and explain yourself, 99% chance it gets thrown out. It takes almost nothing to get a ticket dismissed in court.
But I'm not getting the ticket until I'm being convicted of it. Like, all these letters are ones of conviction because I never seen the actual ticket because the douchenozzle I sold my car to has them all.

What if he gets in an accident? What if my car is used in some crime? Fuck. I hate this lack of control I have right now.
 
My hips are killing me and I'm sure it's due to this work chair. Add in the idea that I'll be in church all weekend (confirmation sponsor on Saturday, baptism on Sunday, woo!) and my legs may be shattered husks by this time next week.
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
Goddamn ice hockey world championships. Not only is every good TV program getting canceled because people demand to see the matches live on telly... but Finland also keeps losing.

At least I can sleep in peace knowing that my sleep won't be interrupted by drunken revelers on the streets.
 

fade

Staff member
Well, we got an offer on our house--for 40K less than asking. I countered, still at a significant discount. They reoffered--AT THE EXACT SAME 40K discount. So I rejected it. It's pointless to continue. I will not sell the house at 25K less than I bought it. I will wait.
 

fade

Staff member
I live about three hours away from my house, so I don't keep tabs on the neighborhood anymore (we had renters). A friend who still lives there told us it is definitely a flipper. He has bought about 5 or 6 houses already. He pays cash, and has a crew gut the house in a day.
 

Cajungal

Staff member
You people want me to drive the short bus around for 10 minutes and take an onlize quiz in preparation for driving children 45 minutes out of town in a vehicle that terrifies me?! You're taking advantage of being an independent school. We can't do whatever we want. That's ridiculous, and you're stupid if you think any of us are qualified to do that. I will not risk lives for some enrichment experience, sorry.
 
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